Light the Fire



Nothing could kill good intention in the worst way other than prejudice. Moreover, when having a prejudice, some people just shut the door upon any kind of conversation. They blindly turn their back away and stay within their own bubbles without willingness to open any room for discussion. They shut not only their eyes and ears, but also their heart and mind. And whether they realize or not, they have lost their sense of empathy towards others. They only think about their own pain, without realizing that there is no hierarchy in the matter of pain; which means that others may be hurting as deep as they are. Their ego is taking over the control. They turn their blind eye without even take a look for a second to hear others’ opinion. We can’t reason with them, for they won’t listen anyway. And at times like that, we cannot help but getting hurt by their action; even though their action is served as the punishment upon our own mistakes. The thing is: people make mistakes, we’re hurt by their mistakes, and we punish them all the way we want to without even realizing that our punishment is creating a circle of heartache and pain.

“My burning fire of love is almost gone slammed by the storm of prejudice. Should I surrender and always relented from the different desire? My white love is only for you, will never change until the end of the world. But you never understand me, always be the selfish one.” –Nike Ardilla, Light the Fire (Nyalakan Api)

I always love the late Nike Ardilla (and thanks for my Mother for this). Somehow, the lyrics of her songs are getting me so. Though they may sound cheesy, they speak the brutal honesty of most women who are suffered. They are full of pain and struggle yet giving the message for hopes and faith at the same time. And this one song is one of them. It is titled “Light the Fire (Nyalakan Api)”. It was released on October 1st 1990 as the title track taken from the late diva’s third studio album of the same name. The power rock ballad track was written by Deddy Dores. Lyrically, it speaks about someone who’s hurt in the relationship, yet as much as they’re in love with their lover, they can’t just give up on it just because they’re hurt, for eventually, the love is much bigger than the pain itself; hence they plea towards the universe for the strength to go on.


"Nyalakan Api" album cover | source: discogs.com

In a romance relationship, at some point to some extent, people hurt each other. It is inevitable since two people with two hearts and two heads must be having a different kind of thoughts, opinions, and definition regarding to what they think is right or wrong or in between. They must be having a different way to define what is hurt them the most and the way how to deal with their pain and heartache. It is natural in a relationship. And what is not natural is when one is shutting off the other without even giving any chance to make up for their mistake. “My burning fire of love is almost gone slammed by the storm of prejudice. Should I surrender and always relented from the different desire? My white love is only for you, will never change until the end of the world. But you never understand me, always be the selfish one.” Understanding is deeper than knowledge. There are many people who know you, but there are very few who understand you. And yes, the higher level of loving is the ability to understand.
And the highest level of loving is to accept as a whole. When we don’t feel understood, it is natural that we feel hurt. However, do we ever wonder whether we understand enough too? The thing is that sometimes people want to be understood without realizing that they cannot understand. If we want to be understood, then we have to understand first. Being understood will not come without understanding. And love is all about take and give. We cannot only take without giving; and we cannot only give without taking. It’s all about the ability to have empathy towards one another. “Should my life be obeying, yielding, listening to your words? Until when should I be like this? I’m always like this. The sun, give your light, let it reflect and brighten up this life.” When we feel like we have given everything and surrendered anything, it is natural that we feel hurt when we feel like those efforts are taken for granted. When we feel like we are just being ourselves, it is natural that we feel hurt when we feel like we’re being rejected.
It is not easy to fight alone in a battle for two. However, when the love is so strong, we are able to do it anyway in the name of it. When one is ready to give up on love, the other is still fighting hard, for they still have the faith upon the relationship; they have the faith upon love. And more than anything, they have faith upon life. When one is ready to let go of love, the other is still holding on tight, for they still believe in the relationship; they believe in love. And more than anything, they believe in life. “Light the fire of life, warm up the burning love. The eye of my heart, swing a resolute step in love.” And no matter how it breaks them apart, they won’t give up on it that easily. No matter how it’s tearing them apart, they cannot just walk away that easily. No matter how difficult it is, they will go through it anyway. They won’t let any prejudice gets in their way. They won’t let any assumption kills their intention. They won’t let any misunderstanding breaks down what they’ve built. They persevere, for they know it’s all worth it.


Nike Ardilla in the music video of "Nyalakan Api" | source: Music Plus YouTube

In a romance relationship, at some point to some extent, love doesn’t feel reciprocal. Sometimes, one feels that they have given up everything while the other feels their presence is being taken for granted. Sometimes, one feels that they are not respected while the other feels they have made all efforts for the relationship. Sometimes, one feels that they have been working hard while the other feels they are not the priority. Most of the times, it is all about misunderstanding. Most of the times, it is all about blind prejudice. Most of the times, it is all about cruel assumption. Sometimes, all we need is just a little patience. Sometimes, all we need is just a contemplation to get back to our roots and gain back our faith. Sometimes, all we need is just redemption. Most of the times, what we have to do is giving more tolerance. Most of the times, what we have to do is to let loose our ego and open a room for discussion. Most of the times, what we have to do is to calm down our anger and give a chance for love. The fire won’t be lighted without a chance. The love won’t be living without a chance. The chance won’t be existed without acceptance; and it comes from understanding.

“Should my life be obeying, yielding, listening to your words? Until when should I be like this? The sun, give your light, let it reflect and brighten up this life.” –Nike Ardilla, Light the Fire (Nyalakan Api)



Api cintaku yang membara nyaris hilang dihempas badai prasangka
(My burning fire of love is almost gone slammed by the storm of prejudice)
Haruskah pasrah dan s’lalu mengalah dari keinginan yang berbeda?
(Should I surrender and always relented from the different desire?)
Cintaku putih hanyalah untukmu, takkan berubah sampai akhir dunia
(My white love is only for you, will never change until the end of the world)
Namun kau tak pernah mengerti aku, menang sendiri
(But you never understand me, always be the selfish one)

Haruskah hidupku menurut mengalah mendengar apa katamu?
(Should my life be obeying, yielding, listening to your words?)
Sampai kapankah kuharus begini?
(Until when should I be like this?)
Mentari berikan sinarmu, biaskan terang hidup ini
(The sun, give your light, let it reflect and brighten up this life)

Nyalakan api kehidupan, hangatkan cinta yang membara
(Light the fire of life, warm up the burning love)
Mata hatiku, ayunkan langkah pasti dalam cinta
(The eye of my heart, swing a resolute step in love)

Haruskah hidupku menurut mengalah mendengar apa katamu?
(Should my life be obeying, yielding, listening to your words?)
Sampai kapankah kuharus begini? Ku s’lalu begini
(Until when should I be like this? I’m always like this)

Nyalakan api kehidupan, hangatkan cinta yang membara
(Light the fire of life, warm up the burning love)
Mata hatiku, ayunkan langkah pasti dalam cinta
(The eye of my heart, swing a resolute step in love)

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