All Out of Love

Wrote by Mashita Fandia Thursday, May 17, 2018 Post Comment

What would I do without you? For some people, the pain is always hitting longer than some other people. It’s not that it’s late like regret; it’s just that the realization of the pain takes a little bit longer to finally hit them home. Arguments are common in a romance relationship; since there are two heads and two hearts riding in the same ship. And some arguments just take its toll on every person in the relationship differently. One may be affected directly so that they are getting angry and being over-emotional; and perhaps it will lead to them storming out or casting out the other. Meanwhile, the other one may be affected gradually as time goes by during the aftermath of the argument; and perhaps they are leaving or being left behind without even knowing why they are being casted out or left behind. For people like the latter ones, it takes time until they can precipitate all of the conflict and process it inside their head. And only after that they can finally understand what is going on. And that is when the pain is taking over. And that is when they know they have to try everything to make things right again. That’s when they know they’re sorry. That’s when they know they’re out of love.

“I want you to come back and carry me home, away from these long, lonely nights. I’m reaching for you, are you feeling it too? Does the feeling seem oh, so right? And what would you say if I called on you now and said that I can’t hold on? There’s no easy way, it gets harder each day, please love me or I’ll be gone.” –Air Supply, All Out of Love

This song I just can’t get it out of my head this whole day (thanks to “Deadpool 2”). It’s titled “All Out of Love”, performed by legendary Australian soft rock duo, Air Supply. It was released in February 1980 as a single from the duo’s fifth studio album, “Lost in Love”. The soft rock track was written by Graham Russell and Clive Davis. Lyrically, it speaks about someone’s lonely and guilty feeling caused by the parting from their beloved ones. In a nutshell, for me, this song is a blatant plea for forgiveness and chance for the relationship to not come to an end.

"All Out of Love" single cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

The worst thing of an argument between lovers is when there is no closure discussion. One is just walking away without saying anything but some hurtful remarks toward the other, while the other is just stunned and not knowing what to do without any chance to say anything. And the worst part is when we know that we’ve hurt the person whom we actually care for. And also the worst part is when we finally realize that there is very little and limited chance for us to explain our true intention towards the person whom we hold most dear. The door has closed and we cannot stop trying to knock on it. Yet no matter how hard we try, it won’t open that easily. And we try to hold on by cherishing all the good times back then, without knowing whether we could have good times like that again in the future. We are tormented and torn apart in uncertainty. “I’m lying alone with my head on the phone, thinking of you till it hurts. I know you hurt too but what else can we do? Tormented and torn apart. I wish I could carry your smile in my heart for times when my life seems so low. It would make me believe what tomorrow could bring, when today doesn’t really know.”

And we are still wide awake in the middle of the night only to realize that we want nothing but to cease the war. We are missing our significant other too much to care about things that have made us angry anymore. We are longing for our partner too much to think that we hate them for closing any chance for conversation. We don’t want to argue anymore. We just want to apologize. We don’t want to throw cold eyes anymore. We just want to give a warm hug. We don’t want to hear any hateful remarks anymore. We just want to say that we love them and we are sorry that we set them apart. We just want to be home. “I want you to come back and carry me home, away from these long, lonely nights. I’m reaching for you, are you feeling it too? Does the feeling seem oh, so right? And what would you say if I called on you now and said that I can’t hold on? There’s no easy way, it gets harder each day, please love me or I’ll be gone.” And yes, we do realize in the process that we are the one to blame. All the fault and mistakes are on us and us only. And though there’s no easy way, we were willing to attempt on anything, for that is what love means; giving endless efforts.

“What are you thinking of?” In our loneliness we are wondering whether our significant other is feeling the same. In our isolation we are thinking whether our partner is thinking the same. We wonder whether there is any chance; whether there is any way we can get through their heart again. We think whether there is any room left in their heart; whether we could be given a chance to make things right again. And we cannot think straight about anything else but how to make things right again. For we all out of love and so lost without the person we hold most dear. “I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you, I know you were right, believing for so long. I’m all out of love, what am I without you? I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong.” For we all out of love and are nothing without the person we care the most. Though it may appear that we are too late to regret, we can do nothing else because we realize that it was our ego that had set them apart in the beginning. Though it may appear that we are too late to beg for pardon, we can do nothing else because we are just human who makes mistake sometimes. And that’s what makes us human; we grow and we learn from our mistakes.

"Lost in Love" album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

We are human; we grow and we learn from our mistakes. And human relationships are growing by learning from the conflicts. I always believe that: in love, we can never be too late to say that we were wrong. If it is love, there is always a room for a chance. If it is love, there is always tolerance. If it is love, there is always forgiveness. If it is love, there is always understandings. If there is not, then perhaps it isn’t love; it’s merely an ego. For love means we never cease to try to make it real. Though we understand that it is hard as hell, we also understand that the only heaven we could have is by keep going on. Though we understand that there is no easy way, that it may get harder each day, we keep on trying anyway for we know that it’s the only thing that could give us peace in the end. And though there may be many other chances we throw away for choosing this one difficult road, I always believe that there is nothing that comes easy for something that is right. And if we try to look at it from other perspective, there is something much more and bigger that we can achieve when we are together. We have been there and we know the potentials. And in the end, I believe, it’s all worth the journey of all the ups and downs.

“I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you, I know you were right, believing for so long. I’m all out of love, what am I without you? I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong.” –Air Supply, All Out of Love

I’m lying alone with my head on the phone, thinking of you till it hurts

I know you hurt too but what else can we do? Tormented and torn apart

I wish I could carry your smile in my heart for times when my life seems so low

It would make me believe what tomorrow could bring, when today doesn’t really know, doesn’t really know