Everybody Hurts



Do you have any song you like to listen every time you feel sad? It’s a song to ease your pain or just to calm your weary heart. It’s a song to peace your mind or just to wash away the scar. It’s a song to give you strength or just to help you sinking deeper in sadness. Whenever I feel enormously sad, I like to listen to “Everybody Hurts”, just to remind me that I am not alone; that I am with myself. Though there is no one out there who could understand my sadness or why I do feel enormously sad, well I feel it anyway. And this pain is real; as much as I could feel it, it’s real. As much as I want people around me, particularly those significant ones, to understand how I feel, I cannot demand them to do that. As long as I can understand what I feel, I guess that is enough. And that is what I need. I don’t need to make them understand if they don’t want to. I know I need to hang on. And if anybody else doesn’t want to help me, it’s fine. I know I need to hold on. And if anybody else doesn’t want to stand by me or take my side, it’s okay. I’m used to it.

“When the day is long, and the night, the night is yours alone. When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on. Don’t let yourself go, ‘cause everybody cries, and everybody hurts sometimes.” –R.E.M., Everybody Hurts

This song is titled “Everybody Hurts”, performed by the American rock band R.E.M. It was released on April 15th 1993 as the fourth single taken from the band’s eighth studio album, “Automatic for the People”, which was released prior to the single on October 5th 1992. All of the members of the band share songwriting credits toward this alternative soft rock track; Bill Berry, Peter Buck, Mike Mills, and Michael Stipe. This song soothes me both lyrically and melodically. And I don’t have many words to tell you how heartfelt and heartwarming “Everybody Hurts” is to listen to whenever I feel enormously sad and feel like giving up.


"Everybody Hurts" single cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

Some days feel longer than it usually is. Some nights feel colder than it used to be. Some times are just simply hard. Sometimes the loneliness feels more unbearable than it usually is. Sometimes the emptiness is crueler than it used to be. Sometimes our mind got more exhausted than it usually does. Sometimes our heart got more anxious than it used to be. Sometimes our troubles seem harder than they usually are. Sometimes our pain tortures us deeper than it used to be. And at times like that we just feel like we’ve had enough; enough of everything that has harmed us. We feel like we’ve done for; done for all the things that have crumbled us apart. We feel like we’ve gotten enough; enough of anything that has broken us and tearing us apart. We’re scattered and lost. And we cry; we cry harder than we used to. And we scream; we scream louder that we used to. “When the day is long, and the night, the night is yours alone. When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on. Don’t let yourself go, ‘cause everybody cries, and everybody hurts sometimes.”
There are times when the universe just seems unfriendly. There are times when the world just seems evil. There are times when the life is just simply harsh. Sometimes it feels like everything does wrong and nothing is well. Sometimes it feels like it would only get worse and worse. Sometimes it feels like there’s nothing to hold on anymore. We feel like letting go. We think we’ve had too much of this life. We feel helpless. We feel stuck. And we cry; we cry louder than we used to. And we scream; we scream the more enormous pain than we used to. And we drown ourselves in tears and sorrow. And we sink ourselves in scars and hollow. And we are lying down there in the darkness until it consumes us as we gradually become one with our solitude. “Sometimes everything is wrong, now it’s time to sing along. When your day is night alone, hold on. If you feel like letting go, hold on. If you think you’ve had too much of this life, well hang on. ‘Cause everybody hurts, take comfort in your friends. Everybody hurts, don’t throw your hand. If you feel like you’re alone, no, you are not alone.”
We cry. We are hurt. We hear this song. And maybe it’s time to sing along. And so we realize. Everybody cries sometimes. Everybody hurts sometimes. We’re not the only one. And we try hard to not let ourselves go. And we try hard to hold on. And we try hard to hang on. And we try hard to find comfort in our friends; even if our only friend is ourselves. And we try hard not to throw our hand. We’re not on our own in this life. We’re not alone. Everybody else also cries sometimes. Everybody else also hurts sometimes. And we try hard to be strong. And we try hard to get a grip to get on. And we try hard to move along. And all we know is that we are hurt. And for now we cry it all. But we try. We try. We try. And we keep on trying. It hurts so badly and we cry so loudly, but we try. Yes, we do try. “If you’re on your own in this life, the days and nights are long. When you think you’ve had too much of this life to hang on, well, everybody hurts sometimes, everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes, and everybody hurts sometimes. So hold on. Everybody hurts, no you are not alone.”


"Automatic for the People" album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

And as much as we try to embrace ourselves, we spell the words ‘hold on’ like a mantra. We spell it to give strength for ourselves. We spell to help ourselves to hang on. We spell it to get a grip on ourselves. Yes, everybody hurts sometimes. It is just how life is. Yes, people do hurt each other sometimes. It is just how human’s relationship is. It is okay to be hurt. We are human. And it is humane to feel pain and sadness. It is humane to just feel. We are not a robot. We are not a heartless machine. We don’t feel things mechanically. We are human and we get hurt sometimes. And the way we deal with the sadness is what defines us as a human being. We feel it. We absorb it. We process it in our heart and mind. And we learn from it. We fall down and we get back up. Though it needs some time, we will do it. It is alright to take some times. Time is all we need. And time is all we need to make. If we can’t get it then we make it. It’s not the first time we get hurt. And it won’t be last time. We’ll keep getting hurt sometimes. And it’s okay.

“If you’re on your own in this life, the days and nights are long. When you think you’ve had too much of this life to hang on, well, everybody hurts sometimes, everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes, and everybody hurts sometimes. So hold on. Hold on.” –R.E.M., Everybody Hurts



When the day is long, and the night, the night is yours alone
When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on
Don’t let yourself go, ‘cause everybody cries, and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong, now it’s time to sing along
When your day is night alone (hold on, hold on), if you feel like letting go (hold on)
If you think you’ve had too much of this life, well hang on
‘Cause everybody hurts, take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts, don’t throw your hand, oh no, don’t throw your hand
If you feel like you’re alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you’re on your own in this life, the days and nights are long
When you think you’ve had too much of this life to hang on
Well, everybody hurts sometimes, everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes, and everybody hurts sometimes
So hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts, no, no, no, no, you are not alone

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