
Melancholic feeling
is something we cannot escape from whenever we feel lonely and missing someone
significant. And emptiness is something we cannot deny whenever we are having a
hard time. And this is what I feel currently. I know that I’m not good at
speaking up about my feelings, but I understand that I’m pretty good at writing
them down. And that’s what I do from time to time; writing down all of my
feelings, just trying to kill the pain. Actually I feel really thankful for
having a significant other who is able to understand, accept, and embrace this
side of mine. I’m thankful that he knows me better to listen to every of my
deepest feeling that I can hardly speak, though I’m stuttering, though I’m
choked by my own tears, he just patiently listens and holds me; wiping all my
tears and kissing away the pain. For me, it’s just irreplaceable. I know it all
too well that relationship can be so painful at times, at some point, and to
some extent. And there are times when we ask to ourselves: where did it all go
wrong? However, every of “me and you” will always know our way back home. And there
will come a time when we stop chasing affection from other people, because we
realize that there is no other can replace what we are to each other, what we
give and what we have for one another, and what we become when we are together.
“Just that one smile of yours, just that one
touch of yours, they were so soft, but why does a single word from you could
make me long for you? There is no other scent and no other whisper can compare
to a single word from you.” –Jung Joon Young feat. Jang Hye Jin, Me and You (나와 너)
Now I that I have
spoken up about my pain and sadness to my significant other, actually I don’t
have any reason to feel sad anymore. However, I still find the need to release
some anxiety that is still left in my mind. And I guess writing my feelings
through this one song will help me to do that; I hope. It is a Korean song
titled “Me and You (나와 너)”, performed by one of my favorite
Korean male singer-songwriters, Jung Joon Young. For this rock ballad track,
Jung collaborated with his senior female singer, Jang Hye Jin. “Me and You (나와 너)” served as the title track for Jung’s first studio album, “The First
Person”, which was released on February 7th 2017. An official accompany music
video directed by Vikings League was premiered on Mnet on February 6th 2017. The music video features a sad love
story that fits the mood of the song. Moreover, the harmony of Jung and Jang’s
duet makes the song sound very emotional and meaningful at the same time. “Me
and You (나와 너)” was written by Jung himself, and
was composed and arranged by Jung along with Lee Ji Hoon. Listening to this
song, as well as watching the MV, reminds me that: though there are times that
relationship can be deteriorated, there is always one sole reason why we hold on
and never stop fighting for it; it’s love. And love is never painful. And during
the hardest time in the relationship, it’s good to take a look at the beautiful
memories that have been made and shared together. We were happy. And we can be
happy, again, me and you, together.
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"The First Person" album cover | source: popgasa.com |
Wise woman said that
love is never painful, but relationship is; because it has boundaries, rules,
and growth, and violations to those will hurt us. Well, I admit that there were
many times when I thought about giving up. Those were times when the pain
seemed so unbearable that no matter how hard I cried my heart out, I couldn’t
feel better. Those were times when the heartbreak felt like killing me and
tearing me apart until I crawled on the floor wishing to die. Those were times
when I felt betrayed for the violations towards the agreement that it took away
my faith, pride, and dignity. Those were times when promises were broken until
there was nothing left of me; that were when I bent too much till I broke in
pieces. “Have you ever thought about the
day we would be together for the last time? Did I have to hear these words
today? My lips are trembling, my dear. Yet, if I send you away, I still feel
like I’m going to regret it, this is not right. I don’t think you will come
back, you will just be another memory, but it’s not the time yet.”
However, giving up
was not the answer, no matter how I thought about it. Giving up might be the
easy way out. Yet, the right thing to do is the most difficult ones most of the
time. Love is the reason why we try and fight for a relationship to work it
out. And as the wise woman said, whenever we are tired, we should rest; and
whenever we feel abused, we should speak it up. I don’t want to have any regret
anymore from walking out of a relationship before even trying to fight harder. Though
I know that I will be alright again as time goes by, just like I have always
been, it still doesn’t feel right to walk away just like this. Though I know it
all too well that everything will eventually become a memory, I just feel that
this is not the time for that yet. It might turn me into a fool and selfish
person, yet I thought holding on was the right thing to do. “Can you please reconsider over it just once
again? Please forgive me for changing. If I lose you right now, I think I will
regret it, this is not right. I was such a fool, am I being selfish? It will be
just another memory; it’s just not the time yet.”
Why do we hold on? The
answer is always clear for me. No matter how many smiling faces I saw along the
way, there is always this one particular smile that I always long to see. No matter
how soft and gentle the touch that I got from every man I met along the way,
there is always this one particular touch that can always make me feel the way
I never felt from anybody else. “Just
that one smile of yours, just that one touch of yours, they were so soft, but
why does a single word from you could make me long for you? There is no other
scent and no other whisper can compare to a single word from you.” Moreover,
there are words spoken and whispered by that particular person that can always
make me feel alive unlike those sweet words from anybody else. And also the
scent; an irreplaceable scent of that one particular person. “I believed that one single wound would not
affect me at all, but why does my heart ache so much like it was ripped apart?
We were happy, weren’t we? Me and you, and us together, will there be no happy
ending for us?”
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Jung Joon Young in the music video of "Me and You" | source: soompi.com |
I know he might not
feel the same way, but I just want him to know that even though he can easily
replace my smile and touch with any other girl, it’s not like that for me. I cannot
easily replace his fragrance and whisper with any other men. No matter how bad
I was fooling around, I will never violate our agreement. Every other smile and
touch that I got along the way, those cannot compare with his fragrance and
whisper that I always long for. Moreover, it’s in the words from him that can
always make me yearn for him. The “me and you” that we have, nothing can be
compared to that and nothing can ever replace that. And just when I thought
that I will be doing just fine while doing all the bending for this
relationship, apparently I was hurt deeper than I thought. Just when I thought
that a single wound wouldn’t affect me at all, my heart hurt as if it would
tear apart. We were happy, right, the two
of us together, you and me? I was bending a lot for this relationship, as I
told you that night, and the fact that I was hurt, if you really do love me,
please do something about that.
“I believed that one single wound would not
affect me at all, but why does my heart ache so much like it was ripped apart?
We were happy, weren’t we? Me and you, and us together, will there be no happy
ending for us?” –Jung
Joon Young feat. Jang Hye Jin, Me and You (나와 너)
한 번쯤은 생각해 봤었나요 우리의 마지막 함께할 그 날
(Han beonjjeumeun saenggakhae bwasseossnayo
uriui majimak hamkkehal geu nal)
((Have you ever thought
about the day we would be together for the last time?))
이런 말을 꼭 오늘 들어야 했었는지 내 입술은 떨려와요 그대
(Ireon mareul kkok oneul deureoya
haesseossneunji nae ipsureun tteollyeowayo geudae)
((Did I have to hear
these words today? My lips are trembling, my dear))
아직 너를 보내면 후회할 것 같은데 이건 아닌데
(Ajik neoreul bonaemyeon huhoehal geot gateunde
igeon aninde)
((Yet, if I send you
away, I still feel like I’m going to regret it, this is not right))
돌아올 것 같지 않아 그저 또 한 번의 추억이 될 거잖아 아직은 아닌데
(Doraol geot gatji anha geujeo tto han beonui
chueogi doel geojanha ajigeun aninde)
((I don’t think you
will come back, you will just be another memory, but it’s not the time yet))
단 한 번의 미소가 내게 한 번의 손결이 고왔는데 왜 너의 한마디는 날 갈구하게 만드는 걸까요
(Dan han beonui misoga naege han beonui songyeori
gowassneunde wae neoui hanmadineun
nal galguhage mandeuneun geolkkayo)
((Just that one smile
of yours, just that one touch of yours, they were so soft, but why does a
single word from you could make me long for you?))
그 어떤 향기와 그 어떤 속삭임도 그대의 말 한마디와는 비교할 수가 없어요
(Geu eotteon hyanggiwa geu eotteon soksagimdo
geudaeui mal hanmadiwaneun bigyohal suga eopseoyo)
((There is no other
scent and no other whisper can compare to a single word from you))
한 번쯤은 다시 생각해줄 수 없나요 달라질 날 용서해줘요
(Han beonjjeumeun dasi saenggakhaejul su
eopsnayo dallajil nal yongseohaejwoyo)
((Can you please
reconsider over it just once again? Please forgive me for changing))
지금 너를 놓치면 후회할 것 같은데 이건 아닌데
(Jigeum neoreul nohchimyeon huhoehal geot
gateunde igeon aninde)
((If I lose you right
now, I think I will regret it, this is not right))
바보같이 굴던 내가 이기적인 걸까 추억이 될 거잖아 아직은 아닌데
(Babogati guldeon naega igijeogin geolkka
chueogi doel geojanha ajigeun aninde)
((I was such a fool,
am I being selfish? It will be just another memory, it’s just not the time yet))
단 한 번의 미소가 내게 한 번의 손결이 고왔는데 왜 너의 한마디는 날 갈구하게 만드는 걸까요
(Dan han beonui misoga naege han beonui
songyeori gowassneunde wae neoui hanmadineun
nal galguhage mandeuneun geolkkayo)
((Just that one smile
of yours, just that one touch of yours, they were so soft, but why does a
single word from you could make me long for you?))
그 어떤 향기와 그 어떤 속삭임도 그대의 말 한마디와는 비교할 수가 없어요
(Geu eotteon hyanggiwa geu eotteon soksagimdo
geudaeui mal hanmadiwaneun bigyohal suga eopseoyo)
((There is no other
scent and no other whisper can compare to a single word from you))
단 한 번의 상처가 내겐 괜찮을 거라고 믿었는데 왜 나의 마음은 찢겨질 정도로 아픈 걸까요
(Dan han beonui sangcheoga naegen gwaenchanheul
georago mideossneunde wae naui maeumeun jjijgyeojil jeongdoro apeun geolkkayo)
((I believed that one
single wound would not affect me at all, but why does my heart ache so much
like it was ripped apart?))
행복했었잖아 함께였던 나라는 그리고 너라는 우리 이뤄질 순 없을까요
(Haengbokhaesseossjanha hamkkeyeossdeon
naraneun geurigo neoraneun uri irwojil sun eopseulkkayo)
((We were happy,
weren’t we? Me and you, and us together, will there be no happy ending for us?))