I often ask people, especially friends of mine, when they decide to get married, how they know that the person they are getting married to are the one. Some of them tell me some reasons, rational ones, which make me wonder whether love can be measured rationally. Well, for this is marriage we are talking about, so I try to understand that it is indeed needed to be measured rationally. However, it is a different thing when I ask about love; how they know that the person they choose is the one they love. Most of them tell me that they just know it. Well, that kind of answer often does not satisfy me. However, now I do believe that that kind of feeling does exist. We know it just when we know it. Love is indeed an irrational thing. Most of the times, we just cannot find the explanation why we feel that way towards certain person. And why we just cannot feel the exact same way towards other people. I used to be a skeptical and cynical person when it comes to love. On the other hand, I know that deep inside of me, I still have this belief; a hope, for love.
“When you know that you know who
you love, you can’t deny it or go back, or give up, or pretend that you
don’t buy it. When it’s clear this time you’ve found the one, you’ll never let
him go, ‘cause you know and you know that you know.” –Shawn Colvin, When You Know
There is this one of
my favorite romance comedy movies titled “Serendipity”. And this is one of the
movie’s soundtracks that I cherish the most titled “When You Know”, performed
by American singer-songwriter, Shawn Colvin. She lend her beautiful voice for
the movie soundtrack, in which album was released on October 5th 2001. The folk
ballad track was composed by Jeff Franzel and Tom Kimmel. Lyrically, “When You
Know” speaks about the belief and hope that people have when they have found
their one and true love. It encourages people to not give up when they know
that they have found the one. No matter how hard it is, giving up is not the
way out. Instead, we have to hold on to it and never let it go. For we know
that it is the one.
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"Serendipity (Music from the Miramax Motion Picture)" soundtrack album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org |
People say that life is full of surprises. We can never guessed when we will fall in love and with whom we fall in love. They say that we will know it when we know. It’s a matter of feeling. And when it comes to us, we cannot deny what we feel. When it comes to us, we cannot undo the feeling we already feel. When it comes to us, we cannot just go back to when we haven’t felt it. When it comes, we cannot just give the feeling up. When it comes, we cannot just pretend that it isn’t there. And this is what I feel right now. “When you know that you know who you love, you can’t deny it or go back, or give up, or pretend that you don’t buy it. When it’s clear this time you’ve found the one, you’ll never let him go, ‘cause you know and you know that you know.” I just know. And though I might be wrong, this time I just know that I’ve found my one and only. And though it might be hard, this time I just won’t ever let it go; not anymore. It is because I have this belief that what I feel is real. And I know it. I know that it is real. And I won’t give it up away.
People say that love
is unpredictable. We can never guess how deep and how great the love we have
when we finally have it. They say that we will know it when we know. It’s a
matter of feeling. And when we feel it, we can feel it through our skin till
our bones. When we feel it, we can feel it in our hearts. When we feel it, we
can feel that there is this kind of rush inside us that makes us cannot wait
till tomorrow. When we feel it, we can feel that there no doubt anymore
regarding to the feeling we have. And this is what I feel right now. “When you feel in your skin in your bones
and the hollow of your heart, there’s no way you can wait till tomorrow. When
there isn’t any doubt about it once you come this close, ‘cause you know and
you know that you know.” I just know. I’ve come this close. And this is the
closest thing to love, if only we can define what love is. And I just know it,
because I can feel it. And there is no doubt about this feeling. “You can feel love surround you like the sky
around the moon. This is how love has found you, now you know what to do.”
Now I know whom I
love. Hence now I know whom I need. We need because we love. And this is what I
feel right now. I just know it. I can neither deny nor pretend that I don’t
feel it, because I know I feel it. I can neither undo this feeling nor go back
to the time when I didn’t feel it. I cannot just give this feeling up. For me,
it is clear that I have found my one this time. Hence I will never let it go,
because I know it. “When you know that
you know who you need, you can’t deny it or go back, or give up, or pretend
that you don’t buy it. When it’s clear this time you’ve found the one, you’ll
never let him go, ‘cause you know and you know that you know.” Hence I know
that it is time for me to come in from the cold. For I know that this is the
warmth of love that I’ve been searching for. And I just know it. “And it’s time you come in from the cold.
And you know that you know.” And this is just what love can do to people. It
makes them know. It makes us understand how it feels. It makes us realize what
love is. We only need to open up our heart to it.
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One of my favorite scene from "Serendipity" movie. |
When love has found us, we would feel this heartwarming feeling inside. It’s sipping through our skin through our bones till it reaches our heart. When love has found us, we would be able to feel it surround us; wrapping us in a blanket of warmth. And that is when we know what to do about the feeling. We won’t deny it anymore. We won’t be able to pretend anymore. We won’t give it up anymore. We won’t be able to go back anymore. When we understand what we feel, we won’t let it go anymore. When we understand that we have found it, we won’t ever let it go anymore. When we finally have no doubt about it, we won’t be able to let it go anymore. No matter how rough the path ahead, no matter how windy the road I have to walk on, no matter how harsh the life I have to live in, no matter how long the time will take, no matter how far the distance I have to go, I will do it all through the way with all my heart, sincerely. For I know that this feeling I have is real and true. For I know that I just know. For I have this faith and hope that I do really know.
“You can feel love surround you
like the sky around the moon. This is how love has found you, now you know what
to do.” –Shawn Colvin, When You
Know
When you know that you
know who you love, you can’t deny it
Or go back, or give
up, or pretend that you don’t buy it
When it’s clear this
time you’ve found the one, you’ll never let him go
‘Cause you know and
you know that you know
When you feel in your
skin in your bones and the hollow
Of your heart, there’s
no way you can wait till tomorrow
When there isn’t any
doubt about it once you come this close
‘Cause you know and
you know that you know
You can feel love
surround you like the sky around the moon
This is how love has
found you, now you know what to do
When you know that you
know who you need, you can’t deny it
Or go back, or give
up, or pretend that you don’t buy it
When it’s clear this
time you’ve found the one, you’ll never let him go
‘Cause you know and
you know that you know
And it’s time you come
in from the cold
And you know that you
know
Wrote by Mashita Fandia