Wonder
Wednesday, July 05, 2017
Can a woman and a man be purely just friends? Some people say that it is possible that a woman and a man can be just friends without any romance involved. On the other side, there are also people who think that it is impossible for a woman and a man to be just purely friends, because at some point, one will always fall for the other. Well, I almost never experience things like that. I can never be friend with someone whom I have interest to (in term of romance). And I can never be romantically involved with someone whom I already considered as a friend. However though, I admit that I do care for my male friends more than other men out there, but it doesn’t mean that I would like to be romantically involved with them. It happened only once before; when I fell for my own best male friend, but it didn’t end up well. However, for some other people, it is easy for friends to become lovers. Though this thing is not for me, I try to relate with this situation (while wondering what I felt back then) when we fall in love with our best friend. And we wonder whether we have to confess this feeling or not; whether we can be lovers or it just going to ruin everything.
“If I loved you, what would we be
like? If I confessed to you like that, what would we be like? Would things have
been more comfortable than now?” –Standing Egg, How Would It Be? (어떨까)
Recently I watched
this Korean drama series titled “Strong Woman Do Bong Soon”. As always, a great
drama is always accompanied by a great soundtrack too. And this is one song
that I cherish the most from the soundtrack of “Strong Woman Do Bong Soon”; it
is titled “How Would It Be? (어떨까)”, performed by Standing Egg. This
pop rock track with medium tempo was released on March 11th 2017 as the “Strong
Woman Do Bong Soon OST Part 3” single. The English translation of the song’s
title is also widely known as “Wonder” or “What If”. Lyrically, the song
follows the story of someone who finds themselves falling for their friend.
Hence, they wonder what if they confess their feeling and how it would change
their relationship. “How Would It Be? (어떨까)” was played
since the first episode of the drama series. It depicts the heart-fluttering
emotions between two main lead characters, Ahn Min Hyuk (portrayed by Park
Hyung Sik) and Do Bong Soon (portrayed by Park Bo Young). Since the two began
their relationship as bickering friends before it turns into romance. I have to
mention that I adore this couple so much. Their fans called them as ‘puppy
couple’ since they are both as cute as puppies, especially when together. Their
chemistry both on-screen and off-screen is just heartwarmingly wonderful.
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| "Strong Woman Do Bong Soon OST Part 3" single album cover | source: wiki.d-addicts.com |
People say that love
is unpredictable. Moreover, when we fall in love with our own friend, we can
never see it coming. It is just that somehow along the way, our feeling starts
to shift. It is just that somewhere along the way, the love grows. It is just
that in some way, we begin to look at that person differently. And after we
realize those changes, we can never act the same way as we did before. And we
can never say things like what it used to mean before. “Do you know now? Have you noticed already? The way I look at you is
slowing changing. It may seem like the same way of talking, but there is a
different hidden meaning. These words I couldn’t say, ‘Be my lover.’” And
after we realize it, everything is not as easy as before, since we use our
feeling in it. We feel anxious because we are confused whether to follow our
heart or our brain. Meanwhile, the feeling keeps on getting bigger and deeper. “I have so much I want to say as a lover,
not a friend. I can’t organize my thoughts. I’m just following my heart.”
The main problem with
falling in love with our own friend is the fear that the feeling would destroy
the good relationship we have so far with that person. Moreover, when we
already feel comfortable as a friend. On the other hand, we begin to feel
uncomfortable for keeping our feeling. Hence we wonder; how would it be if we
confess our feeling? How would it change our friendship? How would that person
react towards it? How would they accept it? Would everything be different? Would
we be happier? Would we feel more comfortable? Would it ruin everything? Would
the friendship turn into a romance relationship? “If I loved you, what would we be like? If I confessed to you like that,
what would we be like? Would things have been more comfortable than now? Would
things make us happier than now? If I waited a bit more, what would that be
like? I would remain as your friend and wait, keep on waiting like this.”
We keep wondering and wondering. In the end, we choose to wait for the right
time to confess.
The thing is; how
long can a person keep their feeling inside? Moreover, when it comes to love,
the deeper it is, the harder we can keep. When we see that person every day,
how can we still hide our feeling? When we meet that person every day, how can
we still cover our emotion? When we are with that person every day, how can we
still keep our love? How can we do that when every day it is getting deeper? It
would drive us crazy. “I will spill out
my feelings now, I don’t want to keep hiding them, because if I keep them
inside, I think I will explode. I see you whenever I close my eyes, I open my
eyes but I also see only you, because you’re the one who will save me from
being trapped like this. If I leave right now, what would you be like? Even if
you regret, I’ll run to you, so open your arms and hug me, just like that.”
After the endless torture of wonders, we choose to be brave. We choose to
confess. No matter how it would end up to, we decide to try. Because no matter
what we do, nothing can calm this heart but a confession.
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| The main lead couple from "Strong Woman Do Bong Soon" | source: jtbc |
If you never try, then you will never know. Ahn Min Hyuk, the main male character in the drama series, said that there is only a way for friends to become lovers: one of them has to make one step ahead. Yes, the answer is a confession. We may feel anxious and have so many concerns regarding to the friendship. However, fears will not take us anywhere. We have to face those fears. We have to brave and confess. In my humble opinion, you only can claim that you love someone sincerely when you are brave enough to confess your feeling. Unrequited love preceded by a confession is painful, but unrequited love without a confession is shameful. Since I believe that a sincere love must reach the heart. Hence, what the good of it if it is being kept inside? I have experienced it. Though I got rejected eventually, at least I have confessed, and it leaves me with no regrets at all. And we are in a good term now as friends. We remain friends. And everything fades as time passes by. However, there are people out there who succeed. Friends can become lovers; it only takes a person to be brave enough to take a step ahead.
“If I leave right now, what would
you be like? Even if you regret, I’ll run to you. So, open your arms and hug
me, just like that.” –Standing Egg, How
Would It Be? (어떨까)
이젠 알고 있을까 혹시 눈치 채진 않을까 조금씩 변하고 있는 눈빛 음 예
(Ijen algo isseulkka hoksi nunchi chaejin
anheulkka jogeumssik byeonhago inneun numbit eum ye)
((Do you know now?
Have you noticed already? The way I look at you is slowing changing))
늘 같은 말투 같지만 오오 숨겨둔 의미는 다른 걸 눈치만 보며 못했던 말 나랑 사귀자
(Neul gateun maltu gatjiman oh oh sumgyeodun
uimineun dareun geol nunchiman bomyeo mothaetdeon mal narang sagwija)
((It may seem like the
same way of talking, but there is a different hidden meaning, these words I
couldn’t say, “Be my lover,”))
너를 사랑했다면 우린 어떨까 그때 고백했다면 우린 어떨까 지금보다는 편안했었을까
(Neoreul saranghaetdamyeon urin eotteolkka
geuttae gobaekhaetdamyeon urin eotteolkka jigeumbodaneun pyeonanhaesseosseulkka)
((If I loved you, what
would we be like? If I confessed to you like that, what would we be like? Would
things have been more comfortable than now?))
좀 더 기다려보면 그건 어떨까 여전히 니 옆에 친구로 남아 기다릴게 기다릴게 이대로 이대로
(Jom deo gidaryeobomyeom geugeon eotteolkka
yeojeonhi ni yeope chinguro nama gidarilge gidarilge idaero idaero)
((If I waited a bit
more, what would that be like? I would remain as your friend and wait, keep on waiting
like this, like this))
하고픈말 넘쳐나 친구 아닌 연인 사이로 예 머리안에선 정리 안돼 그냥 맘 이끄는대로
(Hagopeunmal neomchyeona chingu anin yeonin
sairo ye meorianeseon jeongri andwae geunyang mam ikkeuneundaero)
((I have so much I
want to say as a lover, not a friend, I can’t organize my thoughts, I’m just
following my heart))
너를 사랑했다면 우린 어떨까 그때 고백했다면 우린 어떨까 지금보다는행복했었을까
(Neoreul saranghaetdamyeon urin eotteolkka
geuttae gobaekhaetdamyeon urin eotteolkka jigeumbodaneun
haengbokhaesseosseulkka)
((If I loved you, what
would we be like? If I confessed to you like that, what would we be like? Would
things make us happier than now?))
좀 더 기다려보면 그건 어떨까 여전히 니 옆에 친구로 남아 기다릴게 기다릴게 이대로 이대로
(Jom deo gidaryeobomyeom geugeon eotteolkka
yeojeonhi ni yeope chinguro nama gidarilge gidarilge idaero idaero)
((If I waited a bit
more, what would that be like? I would remain as your friend and wait, keep on waiting
like this, like this))
이제 내 감정을 쏟아 낼거야 숨겨만 두고 싶은 맘은 아니야 이렇게 내 안에 두면 다 터질 것 같아서
(Ijen nae gamjeongeul ssoda naelgeoya sumgyeoman
dugo sipeun mameun aniya ireoke nae ane dumyeon da teojil geot gataseo)
((I will spill out my
feelings now, I don’t want to keep hiding them, because if I keep them inside,
I think I will explode))
두눈 감아도 니가 보여서 두눈 떠보면 너만 보여서 이렇게 갇힌 날 구원해 줄 사람 너라서
(Dunun gamado niga boyeoseo dunun tteobomyeon
neoman boyeoseo ireoke gachin nal guwonhae jul saram neoraseo)
((I see you whenever I
close my eyes, I open my eyes but I also see only you, because you’re the one
who will save me from being trapped like this))
당장 내가 간다면 너는 어떨까 혹시 후회해도 달려갈테니 두팔벌려 날 안아줘 그대로 오오 그대로
(Dangjang naega gandamyeon neoneun eotteolkka hoksi
huhoehaedo dallyeogalteni dupalbeollyeo nal anajwo geudaero oh oh geudaero)
((If
I leave right now, what would you be like? Even if you regret, I’ll run to you,
so open your arms and hug me, just like that, just like that))
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