Love Hurts I
Monday, April 03, 2017
Nothing hurts more than heartbreak. Do you think expectation hurts? Well, expectation hurts only when it does not meet the reality. Hence it causes heartbreak when the expectation does not meet the reality. Therefore, it is the heartbreak that is hurting. Do you think love hurts? Well, love hurts only when we have some sorts of expectation toward it; perhaps, we want the object of our love to love us back the same way we love them, or we demand the object of our love to give the same feeling in return of the feeling we give them. Well, sadly love does not always work that way. Hence it causes heartbreak when the love is not reciprocal. Therefore, it is the heartbreak that is hurting. And heartbreak, truth to be told, could cause cynicism towards the main cause of the heartbreak itself. When it is love that hurts us, then at some point to some extent, we become cynical towards love. And I guess it is inevitable for everyone who has been through a broken heart. Therefore, people say that love hurts, whether it is a noun or a verb.
“Love hurts, love scars, love
wounds, and marks any heart not tough or strong enough to take a lot of pain. Love
is like a cloud, holds a lot of rain.” –Nazareth, Love Hurts
“Love Hurts” is the
song that I would like to discuss the lyrics about this time. Written and
composed by the American songwriting duo Felice and Boudleaux Bryant, it was
originally recorded by The Everly Brothers in July 1960. The Scottish hard
rock band, Nazareth, took in 1974 sweet melody and quite corny lyrics by
the then very popular Everly Brothers and converted it to a soulful, hard
driving rock ballad. The latter is the version that I grew up listening to,
since my Mother and Father are fans of Nazareth. The power ballad rendition of
Nazareth was the most popular version of the song and it also became a part of
the band’s sixth studio album, “Hair of the Dog”, released in April 1975. The lyrics,
sometimes being described as a corny, speak about an old-fashioned heartache
that puts the blame on love as the source of world’s massive destruction weapon
towards human’s heart.
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| "Love Hurts" single cover by Nazareth | source: en.wikipedia.org |
People say that
people are weak in front of love; that it weakens the strong and that even the
strongest person in the world is eventually becoming weak when it comes to
love. People say that love brings pain; that the depth of the feeling and the
weight of the sincerity could cause heartache as deep and as heavy as the love
we have. However, there is this contradictory idea about love: it would not
hurt that much if it does not really matter, right? Hence it hurts because it
matters. Therefore, love hurts because it matters. It hurts us because we let
it to do so. It scars us because we let it to injure us. It wounds us because
we let it to harm us. It leaves a mark because we feel it to the bone. Those could
happen because we are weak in front of love. There is no heart that is tough or
strong enough when it comes to love. It takes a lot of pain. It hurts and it is
inevitable. “Love hurts, love scars, love
wounds, and marks any heart not tough or strong enough to take a lot of pain. Love
is like a cloud, holds a lot of rain. Love hurts.”
People say that love
knows no age, no ethnic group, no race, no religion, and no intergroup. They say
that love knows no boundaries. No matter how young or old we are, love will
always hurt us the same. And there is no hierarchy in heartache. However, older
people get, most of the time they can say that heartache is a blessing in
disguise. Why is it so? It is because heartache taught people. Furthermore, love
that is hurting always has something to teach us. Hence there is another
contradictory idea about love: it would not teach us anything if it does not
hurt us in a way, right? Indeed, as a human being, we learn the best from
mistake. And most of the time, we think that heartbreak is caused by our
mistake. Hence that is why people say that heartbreak is a blessing in disguise,
since we learn something from it; not to repeat the same mistake in the future,
at the very least. “I’m young, I know,
but even so, I know a thing or two, and I learned from you. I really learned a
lot. Love is like a flame, it burns you when it’s hot. Love hurts.”
Everyone who has been
hurt deeply by love will be cynical towards it. That is natural, in my humble
opinion. It is the self-defense mechanism of a human being to be cynical
towards something that has broken their heart. And it is also the self-defense
mechanism to put the blame on something else beside themselves. They will think
that love is the biggest illusion
they should try to forget, and that everyone else who still believe in love is
a fool. They will think that love is
the world’s worst lie and scheme ever, and that people who still believe in
love are fools. It is the self-defense mechanism to be denial. They will say
that they will not be fooled by love no more. They will say that they will not
believe in some utopian ideas brought by love; about happiness, blissfulness, and
togetherness. All they know is that love hurts. And that is just it. They want
to believe that. “Some fools think of
happiness, blissfulness, togetherness. Some fools fool themselves I guess. They’re
not fooling me. I know it isn’t true. Love is just a lie made to make you blue.
Love hurts.”
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| "Hair of the Dog" album cover by Nazareth | source: en.wikipedia.org |
No matter whether it is a noun or verb, love hurts. Well, that is what people say. For me personally, I do agree that love indeed hurts. However, that would be an overly simplification. To put it in a more complicated way: love has potential to hurt us because we love deeply and sincerely and, of course, we have some expectation at some point to some extent about the love we have and feel. And when that expectation does not meet the reality, then that is when the love breaks our heart. Hence that is when the love hurts. However, in my humble opinion, love always has this ambivalence. Love hurts but it does not always mean that it is a bad thing. On the other hand, it is great. Well, let’s put aside the fact that I am a masochist who actually enjoy being sad, but what I want to say is that love only hurt because it does matter for us. In the end of the day, no matter how cynical we have become because of the heartbreak caused by love, we will eventually search for it. We crave for love and all of its promises of joy and pain and happiness and sadness, whether we realize it or not. We long for the heartache, whether we do have awareness towards it or not.
“Some fools think of happiness,
blissfulness, togetherness. Some fools fool themselves I guess. They’re not
fooling me. I know it isn’t true. Love is just a lie made to make you blue. Love
hurts.” –Nazareth, Love Hurts
Love hurts, love
scars, love wounds, and marks
Any heart not tough or
strong enough to take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud,
holds a lot of rain, love hurts ooh, ooh love hurts
I’m young, I know, but
even so, I know a thing or two, and I learned from you
I really learned a
lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a flame,
it burns you when it’s hot, love hurts ooh, ooh love hurts
Some fools think of
happiness, blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves
I guess, they’re not fooling me
I know it isn’t
true, I know it isn’t true
Love is just a lie made
to make you blue, love hurts ooh, ooh love hurts ooh, ooh love hurts
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