Lonely
Sunday, November 27, 2016
Everyone must have been felt lonely. Everyone must have been felt lonely among the crowds. But have you ever felt lonely while your significant other is beside you? Have you ever wondered where does that loneliness come from? Have you ever wondered why do you even feel that way? Have you ever wondered whether it is right or wrong to feel that way? If you ever felt that, well, you’re not alone. At some point, people feel lonely, despite their current relationship status or situation. It is not about whether it is the right feeling or not. It is not about whether something is going wrong in the relationship or not. It is not about whether there is something wrong with yourself or not. It is about being human, and it is a nature of being human to feel lonely sometimes. Everyone has this kind of unexplainable sadness inside them. It is not coming from the outside but it is something we have to deal from the inside. Sometimes we need some time on our own. Everybody needs some time on their own. It doesn’t always mean that we are weird. It doesn’t always mean that we do something wrong. It’s neither the fault of our partner nor something goes wrong with the relationship. It’s about ourselves, which means that we need to spend some time to say hello toward our soul and mind and get to know how it is doing all this time.
“Baby I’m sorry, even when I’m
with you I’m lonely. I must be lacking when it comes to love. Please forgive
this horrible person I am. I’m sorry, this is your and my story. I must not be
worthy of this thing called love. Even though I’m by your side, baby I’m so
lonely.” –2NE1, Lonely
In a respond to the
heartbreaking news spread two days ago, today I would like to write about one
of the songs from one of the most influential girl-groups that Kpop industry
has ever had: 2NE1. Yup, the sad news was that the group was officially
disbanded two days ago. This song is called “Lonely”. It was released on May
11th 2011 as the second single taken from their second Korean self-titled extended
play. The EP itself was released on July 28th 2011. “Lonely” is a mid-tempo
acoustic ballad track written by Teddy Park. An official music video, directed
by Han Sa Min, was released on the same day of the single. So here it is for
you; “Lonely”, in order to commemorate the official disbandment of 2NE1.
I dedicate this post to say goodbye to this group.
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| "Lonely" single cover | source: en.wikipedia.org |
Loneliness is indeed
an easy thing to say but a hard thing to explain. We can easily say that we’re
lonely, but most of the times we find it hard to tell why we feel that way. Even
among the crowds, sometimes some people find it lonelier than when they’re
alone. Lonely is totally different from being alone. Even when we’re with our
significant other, there are times when we feel lonely. “Words that I’m saying right now, I don’t know if it will hurt you, it
will probably make you hate me forever. You say that I’m not the same as I used
to be, that’s not completely untrue. This changed-version of me is a stranger
to myself as well.” Even so, most of the time we cannot understand the
reason why we feel lonely. It’s a mystery even the most genius person in the
world finds it problematic. “You didn’t
do anything wrong, I’m the strange one. It seems that I’ve already been
preparing since long ago for our breakup. I really wanted to treat you well,
out of all the times. But why is it when I’m confronted by love I’m shrinking
away and feeling lonely endlessly?”
Loneliness that comes
from the inside will change us in some way. For some people who used to be
cheerful they would seem quiet in a sudden. For some people who used to be
passionate they would seem so cold in a sudden. Sooner or later, our
significant other will realize that changing. Because when we become a stranger
to ourselves, then it will be even so to our partner. And they will wonder why
we change. When we say the truth that we feel lonely, it would hurt our partner’s
feeling in some way. But there is no other way than telling the truth. That’s
what a healthy relationship takes; to tell the truth no matter how hurtful that
will be. Sometimes it’s not our partner who is at fault. Most of the time it is
ourselves. Nobody wants to treat their partner badly. However, everyone needs
some time to think it for themselves; because not everyone is strong in front
of love. “You are so kind, but, that’s
the way you are, but, oh I don't know why I am like this. We were so in love,
and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself.”
Some people are just
weak in front of love. Some people lose their confident when it comes to love. Perhaps,
that’s where the loneliness coming from; the fear that they don’t deserve that
kind of love, the insecurity that they cannot be and give the best for their
partner. They’re being alienated inside their own fears and insecurities. “Baby I’m sorry, even when I’m with you I’m
lonely. I must be lacking when it comes to love. Please forgive this horrible
person I am. I’m sorry, this is your and my story. I must not be worthy of this
thing called love. Even though I’m by your side, baby I’m so lonely.” It
doesn’t mean that we don’t love our partner enough. Instead, it’s the sign that
we actually love them deeper than we understand. It doesn’t mean that we don’t
know how to give love. Instead, it’s the sign that we don’t understand how to
receive love. Therefore we feel alienated by our own loneliness. “‘Cause I’m just another girl, this night is
lonely, I can’t take it anymore, good bye. ‘Cause I’m just another girl, I’m so
lonely, even though I’m by your side right now, baby I’m so lonely.”
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| "2NE1" mini album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org |
When people feel alienated, they tend to choose the easiest way. And the easiest way is running away. However, most of the times, the easiest way is not always the right thing to do. When we feel lonely, we tend to shut ourselves in the darkness and despair. I’ve been there too, believe me, and yes, there is no guarantee that I would not feel that way and do that again sometimes in the future. It’s actually alright to shut ourselves apart from the world and take some distance from our surroundings. However, make sure that you don’t take too long of the time. There are some people out there who really care for us, and one of them is our significant other. Make sure you don’t leave them hanging and wondering what is happening to you. Because it is not impossible for your partner to feel the same when you leave them hanging by your own loneliness. It is highly advised to take some time for your own, but don’t take too long. It is fine to spend some time alone, but don’t take too long. It is alright to be alone for a while, but don’t take too long. For when you think that love is the cause of your loneliness, it is actually the cure instead.
“You didn’t do anything wrong, I’m
the strange one. It seems that I’ve already been preparing since long ago for
our breakup. I really wanted to treat you well, out of all the times. But why
is it when I’m confronted by love I’m shrinking away and feeling lonely
endlessly? You are so kind, but, that’s the way you are, but, oh I don't know
why I am like this. We were so in love, and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t
know, now I want to find myself.” –2NE1, Lonely
지금 내가 하는 얘기 널 아프게 할지 몰라 아마 날 죽도록 미워하게 될 꺼야
(Jigeum naega haneun yaegi neol apeuge halji
molla ama nal jukdorok miwohage doelkkeoya)
((Words that I’m
saying right now, I don’t know if it will hurt you, it will probably make you
hate me forever))
내가 예전 같지 않다던 네 말 모두 틀린 말은 아니야 나도 변해버린 내가 낯 설기만해
(Naega yejeon gatji anhdadeon ne mal modu
teullin mareun aniya nado byeonhaebeorin naega nat seolgimanhae)
((You say that I’m not
the same as I used to be, that’s not completely untrue, this changed-version of
me is a stranger to myself as well))
너무 착한 넌데 넌 그대로인데 oh, I don’t
know, I don’t know, 내가 왜 이러는지
(Neomu chakhan neonde neon geudaeroinde oh, I
don’t know I, don’t know, naega wae ireoneunji)
((You are so kind, but,
that’s the way you are, but, oh I don’t know, I don't know why I am like this))
그토록 사랑했는데 넌 여기 있는데 oh I don’t know 이제 날 찾고 싶어
(Geutorok saranghaessneunde neon yeogi
issneunde oh, I don’t know, ije nal chatgo sipeo)
((We were so in love,
and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself))
Baby I’m sorry, 너와 있어도 난 lonely 사랑하긴 내가 부족한가 봐이런 못난 날 용서해
(Baby I’m sorry, neowa isseodo nan lonely
saranghagin naega bujoghangabwa ireon motnan nal yongseohae)
((Baby I’m sorry, even
when I’m with you I’m lonely, I must be lacking when it comes to love, please
forgive this horrible person I am))
I’m sorry, 이게 너와 나의 story 사랑이란 내겐 과분한가 봐 네 곁에 있어도
(I’m sorry, ige neowa naui story sarangiran
naegen gwabunhangabwa ne gyeote isseodo)
((I’m sorry, this is
your and my story, I must not be worthy of this thing called love, even though
I’m by your side))
Baby I’m so lonely
lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
Baby I’m so lonely
lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
네가 잘못한 게 아냐 내가 이상한 거야 이미 오래 전부터 난 준비 했나 봐 이별을
(Nega jalmoshange anya naega isanghangeoya imi
orae jeonbuteo nan junbi haessnabwa ibyeoreul)
((You didn’t do
anything wrong, I’m the strange one, it seems that I’ve already been preparing
since long ago for our breakup))
정말 잘해주고 싶었는데 하필 사랑 앞에서는 왜 이렇게 한없이 작아지고 외로운지
(Jeongmal jalhaejugo sipeossneunde hapil sarang
apeseoneun wae ireohge haneobsi jagajigo oerounji)
((I really wanted to
treat you well, out of all the times, but why is it when I’m confronted by love
I’m shrinking away and feeling lonely endlessly?))
I’m shrinking away and feeling lonely endlessly?))
너무 착한 넌데 넌 그대로인데 oh, I don’t know,
I don’t know 내가 왜 이러는지
(Neomu chakhan neonde neon geudaeroinde oh, I
don’t know I, don’t know, naega wae ireoneunji)
((You are so kind,
but, that’s the way you are, but, oh I don’t know, I don't know why I am like
this))
그토록 사랑했는데 넌 여기 있는데 oh, I don’t know
이제 날 찾고 싶어
(Geutorok saranghaessneunde neon yeogi
issneunde oh, I don’t know, ije nal chatgo sipeo)
((We were so in love,
and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself))
Baby I’m sorry 너와 있어도 난 lonely 사랑하긴 내가 부족한가 봐이런 못난 날 용서해
(Baby I’m sorry, neowa isseodo nan lonely
saranghagin naega bujoghangabwa ireon motnan nal yongseohae)
((Baby I’m sorry, even
when I’m with you I’m lonely, I must be lacking when it comes to love, please
forgive this horrible person I am))
I’m sorry 이게 너와 나의 story 사랑이란 내겐 과분한가 봐 네 곁에 있어도
(I’m sorry, ige neowa naui story sarangiran
naegen gwabunhangabwa ne gyeote isseodo)
((I’m sorry, this is
your and my story, I must not be worthy of this thing called love, even though
I’m by your side))
Baby I’m so lonely
lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
Baby I’m so lonely
lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
‘Cause I’m just another girl, 이 밤이 외로워 난 더는 견딜 수 없어 good bye
(‘Cause I’m just another girl, i bami oerowo
nan deoneun gyeondil su eobseo good bye)
((‘Cause I’m just
another girl, this night is lonely, I can’t take it anymore, good bye))
‘Cause I’m just another girl, 너무나 외로워 지금 네 곁에 있어도 baby I’m so lonely
(‘Cause I’m just another girl, neomuna oerowo
jigeum ne gyeote isseodo baby I’m so lonely)
((‘Cause I’m just
another girl, I’m so lonely, even though I’m by your side right now, baby I’m
so lonely))
Baby I’m so lonely
lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
Baby I’m so lonely
lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
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