Sympathy

Monday, March 21, 2016





At some point, love is fading away. Is it? There are people who just aren’t meant to be together, and so is love. There is love that just isn’t meant to be forever. And for those kinds of people, for that kind of love, a separation is the best way. People who have been in a long-term relationship will probably understand this kind of feeling so well; when love feels like fading away, somehow, some way, at some point, to some extent. Korean young rocker, Jung Joon Young, depicts this kind of feeling so well in his song’s lyrics, titled “Sympathy (공감)”. This song is featuring female singer Seo Young Eun, which complements the feeling of the song itself in depicting ‘the art of letting go in love’. The lyrics make me wonder; why should we hold on when the feeling is no longer the same? When you understand that all that is left between you and your lover is just a mere sympathy instead of love, why should you be persistent to keep the relationship?

“Maybe we should have loved without any conditions at all. Worrying about being the first to get hurt, and all things we’ve talked about, they all go away like this.” –Jung Joon Young feat. Seo Young Eun, Sympathy (공감)

Released on February 24th 2016, “Sympathy (공감)” served as the title song for Jung Joon Young’s third mini album of the same name. It’s an orchestral soft rock ballad song which was written and composed by Jung himself. “Sympathy (공감)” was recorded as a duet with Seo Young Eun. However, Jung sang it as a solo track during most of his live comeback stage performances on television music programs. The music video for “Sympathy (공감)” was shot in China, starring Kim Ji Hyang and Leah. It was premiered on ETN on February 18th 2016. Zanybros produced the video with Hong Won Ki as the director. The storyline of the music video depicts the lyrics so well, with Jung and his lover, portrayed by Kim, are being estranged toward each other, not only because Jung finds himself falling for another woman, but also because he realizes that the feeling he has for his lover has been fading.
"Sympathy" album cover | source: mwave.interest.me

Since the first time I listened to the song and watched the music video at the same time, I found myself being hooked into “Sympathy (공감)”. Well, very big thanks to 1theK who provided the English translation lyrics on the official music video. I feel related with this song, somehow. First of all, I’ve been in this kind of situation some years ago. Secondly, I find a similar situation nowadays, not happening right to me, but a very close to mine. So, first thing first, I would like to talk from the first perspective; at some point, love is fading away. “At some point, I stopped missing you. At some point, I didn’t even know if I still need you anymore. Therefore you left, and we went to our separate ways just like that.” A long-term relationship is wearing people out. I’ve been through that, and yes, it wasn’t easy at all. It makes it possible for two people in it to disclosure everything between them. And sadly, yes, not all is a good thing. As time goes by, whether consciously or not, we’re conforming and bending with one another. In this case, feeling can fade. And what can we do hereafter? Admit it. Just admit that yes, indeed, love is fading, somehow, to some extent. “I asked for things I can’t turn back. I’m the one who made everything so cruel. I admitted to the fact, the fact that nothing would change. We said it’s over, and so we really broke up.”
It takes a very brave heart to admit that the feeling of love has fading away. Even when there’s nothing left in the relationship than just sympathy toward one another, it’s indeed a very brave move to admit that. Henceforth I would like to discuss this matter from the second perspective; be brave to let go, for it’s a part of growing up. “Maybe we’ve got ready to say goodbye without any feelings left at all. We only thought about our own pain, but even those memories are disappearing now.” I’ve seen people breaking up from a long-term relationship, and yes, it was hard, but also yes, indeed, it makes them a better, more mature, wiser, grown-up person. Other people may say that it’s a shame to give up on such a long-term relationship, but, the thing is, there’s no such thing as that shame when it’s regarding to our feelings. “Maybe we should have loved without any conditions at all. Worrying about being the first to get hurt, and all things we’ve talked about, they all go away like this.” Other people may say that it’s a shame to choose to walk away rather than fight for the long-term relationship. However, it’s better to walk away now rather than waste your time to fight for the useless battle. Why do I say ‘useless battle’? When you stay in the relationship just because of guilt, a sense of obligation, fears, sympathy, then you’re going nowhere; you’re stuck. When you insist your lover to stay in the relationship while you understand that his/her feeling is no longer the same, then you’re also going nowhere; you’re stuck. When you insist to stay in the relationship while you know that your lover is cheating on you, then you’re stuck. And when you know you’re stuck, you got to let go. You got to set them free, both of yourself and your lover. “Maybe we had to leave each other without ever feeling sorry at all. Memories of times when we were in love, and even those good memories are passing by just like this.”
‘Useless battle’ is battle that you know you can never win. A battle which you understand, that within the fight, you hurt not only yourself but also your lover. When everything you do is never good enough, stop trying too hard. Maybe it’s time to let go. Letting go of something doesn’t make you a loser. Sometimes it makes you a better person. Letting go is never easy. It’s like pulling out a bandage; hurts like hell at first, but it gets better as time goes by. When you know you have to let go, even though it’s the hardest thing to do, you’d do it anyway, right? Knowing that this battle is not yours to win and back away. The art of letting go is never easy, but you got to do it. It’s easy to say yet really hard to do, indeed. However, I can say that, well, at least it was worth the trip. Don’t let yourself be a coward. Don’t let yourself be a suicidal. Let go. If you stay, are you sure you’re not hurting yourself? If you stay, are you sure you’re not hurting your lover? Let go. A true love will always find its way. But if we never let go, we will never know.

“Maybe we had to leave each other without ever feeling sorry at all. Memories of times when we were in love, and even those good memories are passing by just like this.” –Jung Joon Young feat. Seo Young Eun, Sympathy (공감)

언제부턴가 네가 보고 싶지 않았고
(Eonjebuteonga nega bogo sipji anhatgo)
((At some point, I stopped missing you))
그 어느 샌가 네가 더 이상 필요한지 몰랐어
(Geu eoneu saenga nega deo isang piryohanji mollasseo)
((At some point, I didn’t even know if I still need you anymore))
그래서 너는 떠났고 그렇게 갈라져버렸어
(Geuraeseo neoneun tteonatgo geureohge gallajyeobeoryeosseo)
((Therefore you left, and we went to our separate ways just like that))

어쩌면 우린 아무런 감정도 없이 이별을 준비해야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon gamjeongdo eopsi ibyeoreul junbihaeya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we’ve got ready to say goodbye without any feelings left at all))
서로 아플 것만 생각했지만 그랬던 기억마저도 이제는 사라지나 봐
(Seoro apeul geotman saenggakhaetjiman geuraetdeon gieokmajeodo ijeneun sarajina bwa)
((We only thought about our own pain, but even those memories are disappearing now))

돌이킬 수 없는 일을 내가 자초하고
(Dorikil su eopneun ireul naega jachohago)
((I asked for things I can’t turn back))
모든 상황을 잔인하게 만들었어
(Modeun sanghwangeul janinhage mandeureosseo)
((I’m the one who made everything so cruel))
똑같을 거란 그 말을 그 말을 인정해버렸어
(Ttokgateul georan geu mareul geu mareul injeonghaebeoryeosseo)
((I admitted to the fact, the fact that nothing would change))
끝났다는 그 말에 우리는 갈라져버렸어
(Kkeutnatdaneun geu mare urineun gallajyeobeoryeosseo)
((We said it’s over, and so we really broke up))

어쩌면 우린 아무런 감정도 없이 이별을 준비해야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon gamjeongdo eopsi ibyeoreul junbihaeya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we’ve got ready to say goodbye without any feelings left at all))
서로 아플 것만 생각했지만 그랬던 기억마저도 이제는 사라지나 봐
(Seoro apeul geotman saenggakhaetjiman geuraetdeon gieokmajeodo ijeneun sarajina bwa)
((We only thought about our own pain, but even those memories are disappearing now))
어쩌면 우린 아무런 조건도 없이 사랑만 했어야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon jogeondo eopsi sarangman haesseoya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we should have loved without any conditions at all))
먼저 아플걸 생각하는 것도 나눈 모든 얘기들도 그렇게 떠나가나 봐
(Meonjeo apeulgeol saenggakhaneun geotdo nanun modeun yaegideuldo geureohge tteonagana bwa)
((Worrying about being the first to get hurt, and all things we’ve talked about, they all go away like this))

어쩌면 우린 아무런 조건도 없이 사랑만 했어야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon jogeondo eopsi sarangman haesseoya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we should have loved without any conditions at all))
먼저 아플걸 생각하는 것도 나눈 모든 얘기들도 그렇게 떠나가나 봐
(Meonjeo apeulgeol saenggakhaneun geotdo nanun modeun yaegideuldo geureohge tteonagana bwa)
((Worrying about being the first to get hurt, and all things we’ve talked about, they all go away like this))
어쩌면 우린 미안한 감정도 없이 서로를 떠나야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin mianhan gamjeongdo eopsi seororeul tteonaya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we had to leave each other without ever feeling sorry at all))
사랑했던 우리의 추억들도 좋았던 기억마저도 그렇게 지나가나 봐
(Saranghaetdeon uriui chueokdeuldo johatdeon gieokmajeodo geureohge jinagana bwa)
((Memories of times when we were in love, and even those good memories are passing by just like this))

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  1. The thing about letting go is.. You can never plan it. Nor conciously doing it. Letting go, always comes after. We only know we can let go, when its done. Else, it just an attempt to leave, not to let go. Imho.

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