Sympathy
At some point, love is fading away. Is it? There are people who just aren’t meant to be together, and so is love. There is love that just isn’t meant to be forever. And for those kinds of people, for that kind of love, a separation is the best way. People who have been in a long-term relationship will probably understand this kind of feeling so well; when love feels like fading away, somehow, some way, at some point, to some extent. Korean young rocker, Jung Joon Young, depicts this kind of feeling so well in his song’s lyrics, titled “Sympathy (공감)”. This song is featuring female singer Seo Young Eun, which complements the feeling of the song itself in depicting ‘the art of letting go in love’. The lyrics make me wonder; why should we hold on when the feeling is no longer the same? When you understand that all that is left between you and your lover is just a mere sympathy instead of love, why should you be persistent to keep the relationship?
“Maybe we should have loved without any
conditions at all. Worrying about being the first to get hurt, and all things
we’ve talked about, they all go away like this.” –Jung Joon Young feat. Seo
Young Eun, Sympathy (공감)
Released on February 24th 2016, “Sympathy (공감)” served as the title song for Jung Joon Young’s third mini album of
the same name. It’s an orchestral soft rock ballad song which was written and
composed by Jung himself. “Sympathy (공감)” was recorded as a duet with Seo
Young Eun. However, Jung sang it as a solo track during most of his live
comeback stage performances on television music programs. The music video for
“Sympathy (공감)” was shot in China, starring Kim Ji Hyang and Leah. It
was premiered on ETN on February 18th 2016. Zanybros produced the video with Hong Won Ki as the director. The storyline of the music video depicts the
lyrics so well, with Jung and his lover, portrayed by Kim, are being estranged
toward each other, not only because Jung finds himself falling for another
woman, but also because he realizes that the feeling he has for his lover has
been fading.
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| "Sympathy" album cover | source: mwave.interest.me |
Since the first time I listened to the song and
watched the music video at the same time, I found myself being hooked into
“Sympathy (공감)”. Well, very big thanks to 1theK who provided the English
translation lyrics on the official music video. I feel related with this song,
somehow. First of all, I’ve been in this kind of situation some years ago.
Secondly, I find a similar situation nowadays, not happening right to me, but a
very close to mine. So, first thing first, I would like to talk from the first
perspective; at some point, love is fading away. “At some point, I stopped missing you. At some point, I didn’t even
know if I still need you anymore. Therefore you left, and we went to our
separate ways just like that.” A long-term relationship is wearing people
out. I’ve been through that, and yes, it wasn’t easy at all. It makes it
possible for two people in it to disclosure everything between them. And sadly,
yes, not all is a good thing. As time goes by, whether consciously or not,
we’re conforming and bending with one another. In this case, feeling can fade.
And what can we do hereafter? Admit it. Just admit that yes, indeed, love is fading,
somehow, to some extent. “I asked for
things I can’t turn back. I’m the one who made everything so cruel. I admitted
to the fact, the fact that nothing would change. We said it’s over, and so we
really broke up.”
It takes a very brave heart to admit that the
feeling of love has fading away. Even when there’s nothing left in the
relationship than just sympathy toward one another, it’s indeed a very brave
move to admit that. Henceforth I would like to discuss this matter from the
second perspective; be brave to let go, for it’s a part of growing up. “Maybe we’ve got ready to say goodbye
without any feelings left at all. We only thought about our own pain, but even
those memories are disappearing now.” I’ve seen people breaking up from a
long-term relationship, and yes, it was hard, but also yes, indeed, it makes
them a better, more mature, wiser, grown-up person. Other people may say that
it’s a shame to give up on such a long-term relationship, but, the thing is,
there’s no such thing as that shame when it’s regarding to our feelings. “Maybe we should have loved without any
conditions at all. Worrying about being the first to get hurt, and all things
we’ve talked about, they all go away like this.” Other people may say that
it’s a shame to choose to walk away rather than fight for the long-term
relationship. However, it’s better to walk away now rather than waste your time
to fight for the useless battle. Why do I say ‘useless battle’? When you stay
in the relationship just because of guilt, a sense of obligation, fears,
sympathy, then you’re going nowhere; you’re stuck. When you insist your lover
to stay in the relationship while you understand that his/her feeling is no
longer the same, then you’re also going nowhere; you’re stuck. When you insist
to stay in the relationship while you know that your lover is cheating on you,
then you’re stuck. And when you know you’re stuck, you got to let go. You got
to set them free, both of yourself and your lover. “Maybe we had to leave each other without ever feeling sorry at all.
Memories of times when we were in love, and even those good memories are
passing by just like this.”
‘Useless battle’ is battle that you know you
can never win. A battle which you understand, that within the fight, you hurt
not only yourself but also your lover. When everything you do is never good
enough, stop trying too hard. Maybe it’s time to let go. Letting go of
something doesn’t make you a loser. Sometimes it makes you a better person. Letting
go is never easy. It’s like pulling out a bandage; hurts like hell at first,
but it gets better as time goes by. When you know you have to let go, even
though it’s the hardest thing to do, you’d do it anyway, right? Knowing that
this battle is not yours to win and back away. The art of letting go is never
easy, but you got to do it. It’s easy to say yet really hard to do, indeed. However,
I can say that, well, at least it was worth the trip. Don’t let yourself be a
coward. Don’t let yourself be a suicidal. Let go. If you stay, are you sure
you’re not hurting yourself? If you stay, are you sure you’re not hurting your
lover? Let go. A true love will always find its way. But if we never let go, we
will never know.
“Maybe we had to leave each other without ever
feeling sorry at all. Memories of times when we were in love, and even those
good memories are passing by just like this.” –Jung Joon Young feat. Seo Young
Eun, Sympathy (공감)
언제부턴가 네가 보고 싶지 않았고
(Eonjebuteonga nega bogo sipji anhatgo)
((At some point, I stopped missing you))
그 어느 샌가 네가 더 이상 필요한지 몰랐어
(Geu eoneu saenga nega deo isang piryohanji
mollasseo)
((At some point, I didn’t even know if I still
need you anymore))
그래서 너는 떠났고 그렇게 갈라져버렸어
(Geuraeseo neoneun tteonatgo geureohge
gallajyeobeoryeosseo)
((Therefore you left, and we went to our
separate ways just like that))
어쩌면 우린 아무런 감정도 없이 이별을 준비해야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon gamjeongdo eopsi
ibyeoreul junbihaeya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we’ve got ready to say goodbye without
any feelings left at all))
서로 아플 것만 생각했지만 그랬던 기억마저도 이제는 사라지나 봐
(Seoro apeul geotman saenggakhaetjiman
geuraetdeon gieokmajeodo ijeneun sarajina bwa)
((We only thought about our own pain, but even
those memories are disappearing now))
돌이킬 수 없는 일을 내가 자초하고
(Dorikil su eopneun ireul naega jachohago)
((I asked for things I can’t turn back))
모든 상황을 잔인하게 만들었어
(Modeun sanghwangeul janinhage mandeureosseo)
((I’m the one who made everything so cruel))
똑같을 거란 그 말을 그 말을 인정해버렸어
(Ttokgateul georan geu mareul geu mareul
injeonghaebeoryeosseo)
((I admitted to the fact, the fact that nothing
would change))
끝났다는 그 말에 우리는 갈라져버렸어
(Kkeutnatdaneun geu mare urineun
gallajyeobeoryeosseo)
((We said it’s over, and so we really broke
up))
어쩌면 우린 아무런 감정도 없이 이별을 준비해야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon gamjeongdo eopsi
ibyeoreul junbihaeya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we’ve got ready to say goodbye without
any feelings left at all))
서로 아플 것만 생각했지만 그랬던 기억마저도 이제는 사라지나 봐
(Seoro apeul geotman saenggakhaetjiman
geuraetdeon gieokmajeodo ijeneun sarajina bwa)
((We only thought about our own pain, but even
those memories are disappearing now))
어쩌면 우린 아무런 조건도 없이 사랑만 했어야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon jogeondo eopsi
sarangman haesseoya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we should have loved without any
conditions at all))
먼저 아플걸 생각하는 것도 나눈 모든 얘기들도 그렇게 떠나가나 봐
(Meonjeo apeulgeol saenggakhaneun geotdo nanun
modeun yaegideuldo geureohge tteonagana bwa)
((Worrying about being the first to get hurt,
and all things we’ve talked about, they all go away like this))
어쩌면 우린 아무런 조건도 없이 사랑만 했어야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin amureon jogeondo eopsi
sarangman haesseoya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we should have loved without any
conditions at all))
먼저 아플걸 생각하는 것도 나눈 모든 얘기들도 그렇게 떠나가나 봐
(Meonjeo apeulgeol saenggakhaneun geotdo nanun
modeun yaegideuldo geureohge tteonagana bwa)
((Worrying about being the first to get hurt,
and all things we’ve talked about, they all go away like this))
어쩌면 우린 미안한 감정도 없이 서로를 떠나야 했나 봐
(Eojjeomyeon urin mianhan gamjeongdo eopsi seororeul
tteonaya haetna bwa)
((Maybe we had to leave each other without ever
feeling sorry at all))
사랑했던 우리의 추억들도 좋았던 기억마저도 그렇게 지나가나 봐
(Saranghaetdeon uriui chueokdeuldo johatdeon
gieokmajeodo geureohge jinagana bwa)
((Memories of times when we were in love, and
even those good memories are passing by just like this))
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The thing about letting go is.. You can never plan it. Nor conciously doing it. Letting go, always comes after. We only know we can let go, when its done. Else, it just an attempt to leave, not to let go. Imho.
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