Marriage Blue

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Let’s get married! How long have we met? One month, which is eight hundred hours? For some, it can be too short, but for me, it’s enough time to love. I want to be with you for the next eight thousand, no, eighty thousand more! Would you marry me?” –Dae Bok (Marriage Blue, 2013)

What’s the good in fantasizing about marriage? We’ve been through good and bad. That’s what holds a couple together.” –Won Chul (Marriage Blue, 2013)

This is the crucial moment. I was so eager to get married. But once the date is set, I keep questioning myself. All we do is arguing while preparing the wedding.” –Dae Bok (Marriage Blue, 2013)

Title                 : Marriage Blue (결혼전야)
Director           : Hong Ji Young
Starring           : Kim Kang Woo, Kim Hyo Jin, Joo Ji Hoon, Lee Yeon Hee, Ok Taecyeon, Ma                          Dong Seok, Guzal Tursunova, Lee Hee Joon, Go Joon Hee
Genre              : romance, comedy, multiplot
Distributor       : Cinus Entertainment
Release date    : 21 November 2013
Running time  : 118 minutes

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Marriage; whenever I think about that one word, it’s still amazing how complicated the term is for me. Love is a mystery, but marriage is something else. When I was a child, I used to dream childishly about how my wedding would be; the dress, the party, the ceremony, the gorgeous-prince-like groom, the cutie-pie-like children that I would have, and so on and on. However, as I grow up, come a new concept in mind; marriage, the life after the wedding; that a wedding isn’t just about the party, but more about the marriage life we would have after that. Well I learn that love is not enough reason for two people to get married. There are many, so many, other things that affect people to finally reach a decision to marry a certain person. All this time, as I’m a single, I look at married people around me, whether they’re family or friends, and I ask them; why did you get married? What was it that made you sure in the first place to get married? How, and why? Most of them answer; well, you just know when it comes.
Alright, so they say, “You just know when it comes.” Well, pardon me if I still don’t get it. But I’ve tried several times to put myself in the most possible way to understand, and I come to a tentative conclusion that; it takes something more deeper than love for someone to get married; it’s courage. You just know when you are brave enough to get married. And the courage to ask yourself: “Are you happy? Are you being yourself? Are you really in love? Do you love yourself when you’re with that person?” Wow, so many questions, right? Not trying to complicate or dramatize the thing called marriage, but for me personally, they’re important questions. It’s everyone’s dream and hope, including me, to have a marriage for the lifetime. Therefore, we need to know the exact answers for all of those questions, before we make the decision; take it or leave it. It’s the courage to give the answer to yourself, before you say “I do” in the altar.

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Talking about marriage, here is the second Korean movie for My Choices: Continue Living that I’m about to review now. It’s a 2013 romantic comedy movie titled “Marriage Blue (결혼전야)”, which follows four couples during a week before their wedding ceremony. First couple are Tae Gyu (Kim Kang Woo) and Joo Young (Kim Hyo Jin). Tae Gyu is a former baseball player and Joo Young is a doctor in an urology clinic. They’ve broken up once before got back together, and now about to get married. A week before their wedding, Tae Gyu learns that Joo Young has been hiding something from him, which makes him feel betrayed and jealous. This leads to the couple’s big fight in the week leading up to their wedding. Second couple are Dae Bok (Lee Hee Joon) and Yi Ra (Go Joon Hee). Dae Bok is the receptionist in Joo Young’s clinic and Yi Ra is a wedding planner, who’s happened to be Joo Young’s wedding planner too. They began dating just recently, until one day Yi Ra told Dae Bok that she’s pregnant and he immediately proposed her, so now they’re about to get married. As they prepare for their wedding, they keep arguing constantly because of many differences that they find between them and their families.
Third couple are Geon Ho (Ma Dong Seok) and Vika (Guzal Tursunova). Geon Ho owns a flower shop and Vika comes from Uzbekistan to work in South Korea. Geon Ho struggles with feelings of inferiority, since Vika is beautiful and much younger than him. Stressed by that, he is suddenly afflicted with erectile dysfunction and finds himself having to deal with that in only a week before the wedding. Moreover, he starts to wonder whether Vika is only marrying to him in order to get Korean citizenship. The last couple are Won Chul (Ok Taecyeon) and So Mi (Lee Yeon Hee). Won Chul is a chef and So Mi is a nail artist. They’ve been in a relationship for seven years, and now about to get married. However, So Mi feels something is missing, as Won Chul doesn’t seem passionate towards her anymore and merely regards their relationship as a comfortable living arrangement. She decides to go to Jeju Island for a nail art competition. There she meets Kyung Soo (Joo Ji Hoon), her tour guide who’s happened to be the writer of a webcomic that she frequently reads.

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I’m always a fans of multiplot movies, moreover if they’re romantic comedy. Hollywood has many of them; “He’s Just Not That Into You” (2009), “Valentine’s Day” (2010), and “New Year’s Eve” (2011). So when I heard for the first time that South Korea was going to make a multiplot rom-com movie, I felt so excited. And it was about a year ago when I first watched “Marriage Blue (결혼전야)”, which was satisfying me in many ways. It’s not Korean first multiplot movie, but as far as I know and remember, it’s definitely the first multiplot in rom-com genre. First things first, this movie has the perfect cast. Everyone just falls into the right character. And also, one important thing that can’t be left from a multiplot movie, of course, the so-many moral of the stories. From Tae Gyu and Joo Young couple, we learn that marriage isn’t only about love; more than that, it’s about being together with the right person at the right time. No matter how long you’ve known that person, no matter how deep you think you’ve known that person, if the time wasn’t right, then it wouldn’t happen. No matter what the situation is now, when it’s the right time, then it will be. And what’s left is a compromise, and that’s the other thing we learn from this movie.
Marriage isn’t only about love; more than that, it’s about compromising the situation. That’s basicly the thing we learn from all of four couples in this movie. However, we can see that clearly from Dae Bok and Yi Ra. I think I’ve mentioned before, somewhere in my previous posts, that love is about quality not quantity. Dae Bok and Yi Ra only know each other for a short period of time, yet they have to get married because of an unexpected situation. Just like that, the wedding is suddenly fast approaching. And during the wedding preparation, everything is blowing up, mainly because of their differences. Not only between both of them, but also between their families. I have to note that I love what Yi Ra is saying to Dae Bok, that she doesn’t want him to marry her just because a sense of responsibility. Indeed, that’s super duper true! A sense of responsibility is not enough to hold two people together for a long time, trust me, I’ve learnt that from the most experienced couple. It’s when you’re willing to compromise, because you love that person, in order to be with that person, that’s what will hold two people together.

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In Eastern countries like South Korea, and also like my country, marriage isn’t only about two people falling in love being together; more than that, it’s about two big families become one very-big family. As if two families with the same cultural background don’t complicate thing enough, Geon Ho and Vika give us a depiction of two people from different cultural background. For me personally, they’re probably the sweetest couple in this movie. From them, I learn that as long as we try hard enough to understand, love has its own language that makes us understand. I always believe that communication has a very significant role in a relationship, and indeed, it is. Understanding has been a big hurdle in every man-woman relationship. Women usually say that men aren’t sensible. And men usually complain that women aren’t saying the truth about what they really feel. When the real problem is, both of them are just too lazy to try to understand. And you can’t do that for marriage, because it isn’t only about love; more than that, it’s about communicating your true feelings and understanding your partner’s.
Last but not least, comes my favorite story from this movie; the triangle relationship between Won Chul, So Mi, and Kyung Soo. Oh, I should aware you that this paragraph is a spoiler territory. In case you haven’t watch this movie, don’t read it. So, it’s kind of surprising, because Won Chul and So Mi is the only couple that don’t get married in the end. Here is the message, again, that love isn’t about quantity but the quality; and it turns out that marriage is as well. As for Won Chul and So Mi, who have been in a relationship for seven years, I could respect their decision to cancel their wedding in the end. They aren’t similar in many ways, yet they’ve tried so hard to restrain them because they want to work on their relationship, though they both realize that very well. But they’re eventually breaking out just before they walk to the altar. I salute them; Won Chul for bravely letting go and So Mi for bravely walking out. All love needs is a chance, and marriage is as well. Yet, marriage is a one-time decision for a lifetime. Don’t get married because of a sense of obligation, that won’t last long. Get married when you’re brave enough to give the exact answers of: “Are you happy? Are you being yourself? Are you really in love? Do you love yourself when you’re with that person?” Because there’s nothing such as ‘too late’ for a true love.

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The literal Korean title of “Marriage Blue (결혼전야)” actually means “The Night Before the Wedding”, but it was released internationally under its English title as “Marriage Blue”. Truth to be told, actually I had only a little intention to review this movie. I said a little, because of course I would like to make a review of every inspiring movie I’ve ever watched, and this one was very inspiring for me. Yet, on the other side, making a review about this movie means that I have to think about one thing I actually not very keen on thinking about; marriage. Indeed, I have to think about that sooner or later (considering my age), and I feel that this time is right to talk about that through this movie review. And as you can read in this post, this movie has brought some interesting perpectives about marriage. Anyway, it’s actually always interesting for me to talk more and re-think about the concept of marriage itself. Well, maybe some other time in other post.


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