Take A Bow II

Friday, May 19, 2017



In the previous writing I wrote about how we feel that love is wasted away and taken for granted caused by the infidelity act by our partner. As a continuation to the previous writing, this time I would like to write about how the feeling of wasted away and taken for granted is making people somber and sarcastic at the same time. In the end of the previous writing, I wrote that people still be able to value the relationship when there is still honesty. However, if even until the end there is no honesty, then there is nothing that can be valued from the relationship. Apparently, for some cases, people are not only being unfaithful towards their partner, but also being a coward for not being able to admit that they have lied and betrayed their partner by performing an act of infidelity. If Madonna sang it in a soft, feminine, elegantly sarcastic, and melancholic way that she is hurt, Rihanna sings it in a more masculine, rough, tough, and boldly sarcastic way as she is telling her partner to back off since he cannot be honest to her right until the end.

And the award for the best liar goes to you; for making me believe that you could be faithful to me. Let’s hear your speech.” –Rihanna, Take A Bow

Same title but different song, “Take A Bow”, is performed by Barbadian singer, Rihanna. It was released on April 15th 2008 as the first single taken from the reissue of her third studio album, “Good Girl Gone Bad: Reloaded”. The mid-tempo R n’ B was written by Tor Erik Hermansen, Mikkel Eriksen, and Shaffer Smith under their stage names StarGate and Ne-Yo. An official accompany music video for “Take A Bow” was made and directed by Anthony Mandler. Lyrically, this “Take A Bow” follows the story of the female protagonist who leaves her boyfriend because of his infidelity. Shr also expresses disinterest in rekindling her relationship with an dishonorable and unfaithful ex-boyfriend.


"Take A Bow" single cover by Rihanna | source: en.wikipedia.org

From my point of view, based on my personal experiences and other stories that I got from my closest people, pain is whether crushing us down or toughen us up; moreover, the pain of being betrayed by infidelity. It is whether crushing our confidence to the bone or toughening our heart up to a stone. One way or another, it makes people sarcastic and skeptical; particularly regarding to love, and especially for people who have willingness to learn. The more they try to understand the reason behind infidelity, the more they know that this is an ugly world we are living in. “How about a round of applause? A standing ovation?” And at some point in the relationship, when we keep on being lied to, we will eventually get tired of it. And when we got tired, even a mere apologize will not do anymore. It is because we have turned into this sarcastic and skeptical person because of the betrayal and lies. “You look so dumb right now. Standing outside my house, trying to apologize; you’re so ugly when you cry. Please, just cut it out.”
Being sarcastic and skeptical, moreover being cruel towards the unfaithful partner, is actually just an embodiment of a resentment. At some point in the relationship, when we keep on being betrayed, we will eventually have enough of it. And we already had enough of it, even a mere sweet-talk will not do anymore. It is because we have been taken over by the resentment caused by the betrayal and lies. Everything else will seem like a lie in front on us. Anything more will look like a bullshit before us. “Grab your clothes and get gone. You better hurry up before the sprinklers come on. Talking about girl, I love you, you’re the one; this just looks like a re-run. Please, what else is on?” Above all, the worst part of finding out by ourselves about our partner’s infidelity is the feeling of being used and played; we feel like being a fool who easily falls for the lies and all shitty romantic stuffs and believes them. “And the award for the best liar goes to you; for making me believe that you could be faithful to me. Let’s hear your speech.”
The thing about infidelity is that once we find it out by ourselves, we are hurt not only by the fact that we are being betrayed by our partner, but also by the fact that we are being deceived by them. And everything that comes after that from our partner is just a form of reasoning instead of a sincere explanation. Everything that comes after that is just an excuse instead of a genuine apology. Moreover, it is worse if it happens not only once, but many times with a same pattern and without honesty in the end of it. It feels like being in a stage play where we are the protagonist victim and our partner is the antagonist perpetrator. And it always feels bad being a victim. But well, what can we say when they play their part so well? World is a stage, indeed. “Don’t tell me you’re sorry ‘cause you’re not, baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught. But you put on quite a show, really had me going, but now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing. That was quite a show, very entertaining, but it’s over now, go on and take a bow.”


"Good Girl Gone Bad: Reloaded" album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

I have lived long enough to see and know that we or our partner is not the only one in this world with infidelity issues. Hence I have seen and understood how infidelity can turn people into a monster they never realized living inside themselves. It not only breaks our heart but also crushes our confidence. It not only gives pain to our soul but also makes us being a sarcastic and skeptical person. No matter what the reason is, infidelity turns our heart and soul into black. No matter what the reason is, infidelity brings out the worst of us. Honesty is one thing that could help in the end; to at least save the relationship, as well as our heart and soul, from being totally wrecked in heartbreak. If there is no honesty, there is no room for discussion and negotiation. And when even there is no willingness to have the honesty right until the end, and then there is nothing more to be hold onto from the relationship. There is no more reason to go on. That is when the show is really over, the curtain is finally closing, and that is the time to take a bow.

But you put on quite a show, really had me going, but now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing. That was quite a show, very entertaining, but it’s over now, go on and take a bow.” –Rihanna, Take A Bow







Oh, how about a round of applause, yeah, a standing ovation?
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

You look so dumb right now, standing outside my house
Trying to apologize, you’re so ugly when you cry, please, just cut it out

Don’t tell me you’re sorry ‘cause you’re not, baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show, really had me going, but now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining, but it’s over now (but it’s over now), go on and take a bow

Grab your clothes and get gone (get gone), you better hurry up before the sprinklers come on (come on)
Talking about girl, I love you, you’re the one, this just looks like a re-run, please, what else is on (on)?

Don’t tell me you’re sorry ‘cause you’re not, baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show, really had me going, but now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining, but it’s over now (but it’s over now), go on and take a bow

Oh, and the award for the best liar goes to you (goes to you)
For making me believe (that you) that you could be faithful to me, let’s hear your speech, oh

How about a round of applause, a standing ovation?
But you put on quite a show, really had me going, now it’s time to go, curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show, very entertaining, but it’s over now (but it’s over now), go on and take a bow
But it’s over now

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