Private Emotion

Sunday, March 19, 2017



The thing about love is that it may be a one way street. However, the thing about relationship is that it is never a one way street. The thing about having a significant other is that you uncover yourself towards them. It is that your true self will be unveiled before them. It is that you are being truly and fully naked in front of them. The thing about having a significant other is that you feel safe when you share even your deepest dream. It is that you feel safe when you share even your darkest fear. It is that you feel safe even when you share your most private emotion. The thing about having a significant other is that you will never be alone during the good and the bad times, for better and for worse, and even for the best and the worst. The thing about having a significant other is that you will never be alone during your strong and your weak, your high and your low, your bright and your dark. The thing about those things is that it is overwhelming you. Hence it makes you scared and terrified. Hence it makes you want to runaway sometimes. Love runs both ways when we are in a relationship. Hence we should not be scared and terrified though we are overwhelmed by it. Hence we should open our heart. Hence we must not runaway.

When your soul is tired and your heart is weak, do you think of love as one way street? Well it runs both ways; open up your eyes, can’t you see me here? How can you deny?” –The Hooters, Private Emotion

The song I would like to talk about this time is a song titled “Private Emotion”. It was originally recorded by American rock band, The Hooters, for their fifth studio album, “Out of Body”, released on May 11th 1993. Six years later, it was covered by Puerto Rican singer, Ricky Martin. It was released as a single on February 8th 2000, featuring Swedish singer, Meja. It was also included in Martin’s second eponymous album, as well as his first album in English, which was released on May 11th 1999. This song served as the fifth and also the final single taken from the album. Martin’s version became immensely popular and an official accompany music video directed by Francis Lawrence was released in 2000. “Private Emotion” was written by The Hooters’ front-men, Eric Bazilian and Rob Hyman. The Hooters’ version is a rock ballad track with a medium tempo, while Martin’s version is a pop ballad R n’ B, also with a medium tempo. Though I like both versions, I actually prefer Martin’s version since it sounds more familiar to me and I grew up listening to it. The lyrics speak about the private feeling that can be shared only by two people who are soul-mates.


"Out of Body" album cover by The Hooters | source: en.wikipedia.org

There are some people who are afraid when they feel too happy or everything seems so great for them. They think that when they feel too happy then they will feel so sad soon enough. They think that when everything seems so great for them then everything will turn too bad soon. Well, they are not completely wrong. And actually I’m that kind of person too. It is called “regression to the mean”, when everything will eventually come into the middle to find balance again. Hence when everything is good, soon something bad will come. However, when everything is bad, soon something good will come too; regression to the mean. “Every endless night has a dawning day. Every darkest sky has a shining ray. And it shines on you. Baby, can’t you see? You’re the only one who can shine for me.” There is a silver lining even amidst the dark clouds. And nothing lasts forever even the cold November rain. Just because we stumble along the way, doesn’t mean we will be on the ground forever. All things will eventually pass. These too shall pass.
“When your soul is tired and your heart is weak, do you think of love as one way street? Well it runs both ways; open up your eyes, can’t you see me here? How can you deny?” I was raised in a Javanese culture which taught me that this life is indeed fluctuating. There are ups and downs, but it continues to flow. There is no constant sadness, as well as there is no constant happiness. Everything always has its time. However, we also need to think about traumatic effects caused by the fluctuation of life, because that is what mostly being neglected by most people (Nurrachman Sutojo, 2013: 75). Therefore the role of a significant other becomes important in a relationship. We need to understand that when we have a significant other, we actually have a person to rely on when everything gets hard and rough. We can see them and we can reach for them and share every pain. “Every endless night has a dawning day. Every darkest sky has a shining ray. It takes a lot to laugh as your tears go by, but you can find me here till your tears run dry.”
I believe that every pain is traumatic. And every traumatic feeling is always personal. It is like a private section of everyone. And I understand it all too well that it is so hard to share this private emotion towards anybody else, including our significant other. Hence when it comes, we tend to keep it for ourselves or even choose the easy way: runaway and hide. However, the right thing to do is most of the time the hardest thing. “It’s a private emotion that fills you tonight. And a silence falls between us as the shadows steal the light. And wherever you may find it, wherever it may lead, let your private emotion come to me.” Instead of running away and hiding, it will be best to share our private emotion to our trusted ones, and in this case is our significant other. Though we will need a time to do that, we need to do that eventually. Sharing is the best thing to do for a self healing process. We may know ourselves better than anyone else. However, our significant other may know things that we do not even realize about ourselves.


"Private Emotion" single cover by Ricky Martin featuring Meja | source: en.wikipedia.org

We may understand ourselves better than anyone else does. However, when we got tied up in sadness and exhaustion of misfortunes that this life brings, we tend to not be able to see what we are really capable of. When our soul got tired and our heart is weak, we tend to not be able to know how much our endurance really is. On the other hand, our significant other may be able to see and know it. Despite the dark clouds that clung upon us, they can always see the silver lining. They can always see our lights even when we feel like we are at our darkest. Despite the series of misfortune that come to us, they can always take a lesson and turn it into a blessing in disguise. They can always know that something good is waiting for us in the end of the day. They can always understand that it will take some time for us to be better again, but they are just always there. They are always there for us to rely on. There are always there for us to lean on. There are always there for us with open arms. There are always there for us to share this private emotion.

Every endless night has a dawning day. Every darkest sky has a shining ray. It takes a lot to laugh as your tears go by, but you can find me here till your tears run dry.” –The Hooters, Private Emotion




Every endless night has a dawning day, every darkest sky has a shining ray
And it shines on you, baby can’t you see? You’re the only one who can shine for me

It’s a private emotion that fills you tonight
And a silence falls between us as the shadows steal the light
And wherever you may find it, wherever it may lead
Let your private emotion come to me, come to me

When your soul is tired and your heart is weak, do you think of love as one way street?
Well it runs both ways, open up your eyes, can’t you see me here? How can you deny?

It’s a private emotion that fills you tonight
And a silence falls between us as the shadows steal the light
And wherever you may find it, wherever it may lead
Let your private emotion come to me, come to me, come to me

Every endless night has a dawning day, every darkest sky has a shining ray
It takes a lot to laugh as your tears go by, but you can find me here till your tears run dry

It’s a private emotion that fills you tonight
And a silence falls between us as the shadows steal the light
And wherever you may find it, wherever it may lead
Let your private emotion come to me, let your private emotion come to me
Let your private emotion come to me, come to me, come to me

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