Are You Mine?

Friday, March 17, 2017



Jean-Paul Sartre believed that human existence is the result of chance or accident; that there is no meaning or purpose of our lives other than what our freedom creates. Therefore, we must rely on our own resources. Sartre thought that existence manifests itself in the choice of actions, anxiety, and freedom of the will. In this way, the responsibility of building one’s future is in one’s hands, but the future is uncertain and so one has no escape from anxiety and despair. We are always under the shadow of anxiety; higher responsibility leads to higher anxiety. Life is indeed full of uncertainty, as well as in relationship. For existentialists, just like Sartre’s slogan, existence precedes essence, which means that the essence itself will not be there if there isn’t existence. Something has to exist first before it can give meaning to its existence. Therefore, existence precedes essence. Whether we realize it or not, the rule of existentialism is applied in romance relationship. Ones cannot give meaning towards someone else unless they exist for them. And beyond the existence itself, there is this unavoidable anxiety in the relation to uncertainty.

She’s a silver lining lone ranger riding through an open space. In my mind when she’s not right there beside me, I go crazy ‘cause here isn't where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory.” –Arctic Monkeys, R U Mine?

In the relation to uncertainty in romance relationship, I would like to talk about a song titled “R U Mine?” This song is performed by English indie rock band, Arctic Monkeys. It features lyrics written by the band’s vocalist and rhythm guitarist Alex (my love) Turner and bassist Nick O’Malley, as well as music composed by the entire band. The rock track was released as a digital download in the United Kingdom on February 26th 2012 and was released physically for the Record Store Day on April 21st 2012 on a limited edition double A-side purple 7” vinyl along with new song, “Electricity”. The vinyl was limited to a run of only 1750 copies. Despite originally being released as a standalone single, the song was later included on the band’s fifth studio album, “AM”, in a slightly different version. An official accompany music video of “R U Mine?” was first released onto Youtube on February 27th 2012; features radio DJ and musician Steve Jones. A second video has been released onto Youtube on March 29th 2012, following their live show in Mexico City one day earlier. “R U Mine?” is one of rhetorically titled tracks in the “AM” album along with “Do I Wanna Know?” and “Why’d You Only Call Me When You’re High?” Turner said about this song that to put it simply, it is about the uncertainty that comes with love sometimes; wondering where you are with it all, and that is the undertone for the tune.


"R U Mine?" single cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

Being in an uncertainty makes us feeling like being a puppet on a string. We are deceiving ourselves. We are aware that we are being controlled and do things just to impress that person we are infatuated with. We are conscious of that yet we choose to be unconscious about it and keep on doing the same thing. We are being played like a doll and we do not mind at all. There is no hesitation when we are with them. However, when they are away, there is only this lingering anxiety haunting ourselves. They come and go as they please, and yes, all beautiful things make pain. “I’m a puppet on a string, Tracy Island, time-traveling; diamond could’ve shaped heartaches. Come to find you four in some velvet morning, years too late. She’s a silver lining lone ranger riding through an open space. In my mind when she’s not right there beside me, I go crazy ‘cause here isn't where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory. And I can’t help myself, all I wanna hear her say is ‘Are you mine?’ Well, are you mine?”
Being in an uncertainty gives us this mixed-feeling. At one side, we are miserable as we cannot stop thinking about that person when we apart from them. On the other side, we always feel reassured whenever they are beside us as that person could fulfill our desire; a silver lining, a good thing that comes after a bad thing that we can look forward to see whenever we have a bad time. It drives us insane to be away from them while all we want to have a getaway time together. However, we just can’t. They stay and leave as they please, and yes, all beautiful things derange us. “I guess what I’m trying to say is I need the deep end keep imagining meeting; wished away entire lifetimes. Unfair we’re not somewhere misbehaving for days, great escape lost track of time and space. She’s a silver lining climbing on my desire. And I go crazy ‘cause here isn’t where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory. And I can’t help myself, all I wanna hear her say is ‘Are you mine?’ Well, are you mine? Are you mine tomorrow? Or just mine tonight?”
Being in an uncertainty traps us in this strange curiosity. However, most of the time, we just enjoy the ride of that uncertain roller-coaster. Being in an uncertainty traps us in this confusing enigma. However, most of the time, we just enjoy the excitement of that uncertain maze. On the other hand, we find ourselves craving for knowing the end of the journey. And we find ourselves dying to know the answer that gives us the way out. That is where the mixed-feelings are. “And the thrill of the chase moves in mysterious ways. So in case I’m mistaken, I just wanna hear you say ‘You got me baby, are you mine?’” In the end, we crave to know whether that person wants us as much as we want them, and wonder, are they ours? “She’s a silver lining lone ranger riding through an open space. In my mind when she’s not right there beside me, I go crazy cause here isn’t where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory. And I can’t help myself, all I wanna hear her say is ‘Are you mine?’ Well, are you mine? Are you mine tomorrow? Or just mine tonight?”


"AM" album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

The thing about being infatuated with someone is that there is always this kind of anxiety which comes from uncertainty. We do not want to be anywhere that person is not and this frustrates the shit out of us. We do not want to be in the position where we are always playing games with that person and not knowing where we stand with each other. We do not want to invest too much love into the relationship just to find out that that person is not that into us. We do feel like we just have a chance with that person, but they have not made their feeling clear yet. We do want that person to clarify their feeling for us. Is it just a one-night stand or something more? Is just going to be like this forever or something more? Is it just it or something more? Just like what Sartre thought about existentialism; the essence is disappeared while the existence is gone. As long as that person is not there right beside us, we go crazy since all that left is uncertainty. And there is us; left with questions lingering inside our mind, are you mine? Are you mine tomorrow or just mine tonight?

She’s a silver lining climbing on my desire. And I go crazy ‘cause here isn’t where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory.” –Arctic Monkeys, R U Mine?




I’m a puppet on a string, Tracy Island, time-traveling, diamond could’ve shaped heartaches
Come to find you four in some velvet morning, years too late
She’s a silver lining lone ranger riding through an open space
In my mind when she’s not right there beside me
I go crazy ‘cause here isn't where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory
And I can’t help myself, all I wanna hear her say is “Are you mine?”
Well, are you mine? Are you mine? Are you mine?

I guess what I’m trying to say is I need the deep end keep imagining meeting
Wished away entire lifetimes
Unfair we’re not somewhere misbehaving for days, great escape lost track of time and space
She’s a silver lining climbing on my desire
And I go crazy ‘cause here isn’t where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory
And I can’t help myself, all I wanna hear her say is “Are you mine?”
Well, are you mine? Are you mine tomorrow?
Are you mine? Or just mine tonight? Are you mine? Are you mine? Mine?

And the thrill of the chase moves in mysterious ways
So in case I’m mistaken, I just wanna hear you say “You got me baby, are you mine?”

She’s a silver lining lone ranger riding through an open space
In my mind when she’s not right there beside me
I go crazy cause here isn’t where I wanna be, and satisfaction feels like a distant memory
And I can’t help myself, all I wanna hear her say is “Are you mine?”
Well, are you mine? Are you mine tomorrow? Are you mine? Or just mine tonight?
Are you mine? Are you mine tomorrow? Or just mine tonight?

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