The Right Time to Say Goodbye

Wednesday, February 01, 2017




Is there a right time to say goodbye? Is there really a right time to say goodbye? For me personally, I think people do not have any idea about what time or when is right to say goodbye. When people have to say goodbye, they just know when they do it. People just know that it is time to say goodbye when they do it. We cannot really prepare for the right time to say goodbye. We can never prepare our heart to say goodbye towards our beloved ones. No one is actually able to say goodbye to their beloved ones. And they say that leaving is easier than being left, while actually leaving and being left are equally painful. They just have to deal with different kind of pain. The one who is leaving has to deal with fears and insecurities in a new place; meanwhile there is still an excitement in it for meeting new people; but who knows that there will be emptiness to be there without their loved ones. On the other hand, the one who is being left has to deal with fears and insecurities in the same place where they used to be; it’s the same people, same daily routines, same atmosphere, but it just that there is something missing;  hollow and empty inside caused by the absence of their loved ones. No one can actually prepare for that kind of pain. However, when the time for separation is in front of us, what else can we do but letting go? Is it the right time to say goodbye?

And if you have to leave, far away and never come back; I will let you go if you are happy forever in there, even though without me. I will understand, Love, with everything that happens; just make sure that your steps are worth it.” –Sheila on 7, The Right Time to Say Goodbye (Waktu Yang Tepat Untuk Berpisah)

This time I would like to write about separation, in frame of an Indonesian song titled “The Right Time to Say Goodbye (Waktu Yang Tepat Untuk Berpisah)”, performed by Sheila on 7. It was released in December 7th 2002 as a part of the band’s third studio album, “07 Des”. This alternative rock ballad track was written by the band’s guitarist, Eross Candra. An official music video for “The Right Time to Say Goodbye (Waktu Yang Tepat Untuk Berpisah)” was released as the fifth promotional music video from the album. This song is my favorite in the album not only because the lyrics but also because the heart-wrenching melancholic melody. It captures so well the mixed-feelings and the irony of happiness and sadness of letting go of someone we hold most dear. How could a rain be warm? How could a storm be gentle? How could a separation bring happiness?


"07 Des" album cover | source: id.wikipedia.org
When love someone, deeply and sincerely, that person’s happiness is above anything else. Hence what would you do when that person wants to say goodbye? What could you do when that person needs to leave? What else can we do but letting them go? If letting go would bring happiness to that person, do we have another choice? Though we are drenched in an ultimate sadness when we let them go, can we make the choice? “And if you have to leave, far away and never come back; I will let you go if you are happy forever in there, even though without me. I will understand, Love, with everything that happens; just make sure that your steps are worth it.” We will put everything to be able to understand why that person has to leave. It doesn’t matter if our life is miserable here as long as that person could reach their dream. It doesn’t matter if we are left heartbroken here as long as that person is happy there, forever, even if it means without us by their side. “I will understand, Love, with all that happened; just make sure that your dream is worth it.”
It doesn’t matter whether we could be without that person here, as long as they could make it well there. It doesn’t matter whether we would get through the heartbreaking loneliness without that person here, as long as they would achieve their dreams and goals there. It doesn’t matter about us. All that matters is that person. However, letting go is not that easy. “Can I be without you? Could I be without you?” Being left alone is like being embraced by the rain; cold and cruel. Being left alone is like being caressed by the storm; harsh and painful. It is all full of irony. The separation breaks our heart in pieces hence the last embrace doesn’t feel as warm as before. The separation gives so much pain hence the last caress doesn’t feel as gentle as before. Though we let go, it is still painful and hurtful and killing us inside. “As warm as the embrace of rain, when you wave your hand; your serene face whispers, this is the right time to say goodbye. As gentle as the caress of storm, when you turn away; your footstep is legible, this is the right time to say goodbye.”
Sincerity is hard thing to be manifested. But when we love someone sincerely, we put nothing above them. When we love someone sincerely, we let go of them if it could bring them happiness. When we love someone sincerely, we let them go though it would be painful for us. When we love someone sincerely, we do not expect them to come back if they find happiness there. When we love someone sincerely, we do not wait for them to come back if they find peacefulness there. When we love someone sincerely, we do not ask them to come back if they find their world there. Even though it means that the person would leave us forever heartbroken here, it does not matter if we love someone sincerely, since their happiness is above anything else. “I never expected you to come back, when you find your world. I never waited for you to come back, when happiness is your crown. If peacefulness is your blanket, don’t you come back.” When we love someone sincerely, we do not even care much about our own happiness. We only care about their happiness.

Duta, Sheila on 7's vocalist, as seen in "Waktu Yang Tepat Untuk Berpisah" music video | source: Youtube

Somehow I believe that there isn’t a right time to say goodbye when we love someone, deeply and sincerely. Naturally, I believe that no one in this world would be willing to say goodbye to their beloved ones. Naturally, I believe that everyone in this world would be willing to live together forever with their beloved ones. However, at times, love demands some price to pay. And sadly, not everyone in this world is lucky enough to be able to live together forever with their beloved ones. Sadly, there are some people in this world who have to say goodbye to their beloved ones. At times in life, people have to choose whether to stay or leave; sometimes in order to chase some dreams or to achieve some goals. When it happens to our beloved ones, what else could we choose but to let them go? What else would we do but to let them leave? We can only expect that they would come back if they do not find their world there. We can only wait for them to come back if they do not find happiness there. We can only ask them to come back if they do not find peacefulness there. If it’s for their happiness, even though we’re in deep sadness, we let go, eventually.

I never expected you to come back, when you find your world. I never waited for you to come back, when happiness is your crown. If peacefulness is your blanket, don’t you come back.” –Sheila on 7, The Right Time to Say Goodbye (Waktu Yang Tepat Untuk Berpisah)


Dan bila kau harus pergi jauh dan takkan kembali
(And if you have to leave, far away and never come back)
Ku akan merelakanmu bila kau bahagia s’lamanya di sana, walau tanpaku
(I will let you go if you are happy forever in there, even though without me)
Ku akan mengerti, Cinta, dengan semua yang terjadi
(I will understand, Love, with everything that happens)
Pastikan saja langkahmu tetap berarti
(Just make sure that your steps are worth it)

Bisakah aku tanpamu? Sanggupkah aku tanpamu?
(Can I be without you? Could I be without you?)

Sehangat pelukan hujan saat kau lambaikan tangan
(As warm as the embrace of rain, when you wave your hand)
Tenang wajahmu berbisik, inilah waktu yang tepat ‘tuk berpisah
(Your serene face whispers, this is the right time to say goodbye)
Selembut belaian badai saat kau palingkan arah
(As gentle as the caress of storm, when you turn away)
Jejak langkahmu terbaca, inilah waktu yang tepat ‘tuk berpisah
(Your footstep is legible, this is the right time to say goodbye)

Ku akan pahami, Cinta, dengan apa yang terjadi
(I will understand, Love, with all that happened)
Pastikan saja mimpimu tetap berarti
(Just make sure that your dream is worth it)

Aku tak pernah mengharap kau ‘tuk kembali, saat kau temukan duniamu
(I never expected you to come back, when you find your world)
Aku tak pernah menunggu kau ‘tuk kembali, saat bahagia mahkotamu
(I never waited for you to come back, when happiness is your crown)
Bila kedamaian selimutmu, jangan kau kembali
(If peacefulness is your blanket, don’t you come back)

Sehangat pelukan hujan saat kau lambaikan tangan
(As warm as the embrace of rain, when you wave your hand)
Tenang wajahmu berbisik, inilah waktu yang tepat ‘tuk berpisah
(Your serene face whispers, this is the right time to say goodbye)
Selembut belaian badai saat kau palingkan arah
(As gentle as the caress of storm, when you turn away)
Jejak langkahmu terbaca, inilah waktu yang tepat ‘tuk berpisah
(Your footstep is legible, this is the right time to say goodbye)

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