Standing Still

Wednesday, February 08, 2017



Have you ever felt lost? Like you don’t know where to go or even where you are standing at currently? Have you ever felt confused? Like you don’t know what to choose or even what choices you have right now? Have you ever felt empty and hollow? Like you’re losing your grip and having nothing to hold onto? Have you ever felt broken down? Like you’re hardly breathing and having no light to guide your way? I feel lost when I realize that the one significant other whom I want is not want me back. I feel confused when I realize that a sweet sorrow may come tomorrow. I feel empty and hollow when I know that the one significant other whom I need the most is not need me back. I feel broken down when I understand that the one significant other whom I love is not love me the way I love him. When love isn’t reciprocal, that’s when we lose ourselves in the way. However, does it really mean that we are losing? Though we feel lost, confused, empty and hollow, and broken down, do we really lose? We may stand still, but that doesn’t mean we’re losing.

Cutting through the darkest night are my two headlights. Trying to keep it clear, but I’m losing it here to the twilight. There’s a dead end to my left, there’s a burning bush to my right. You aren’t in sight; you aren’t in sight.” –Jewel, Standing Still

The song I would like to discuss the lyrics today is a song titled “Standing Still”, performed by American singer-songwriter, Jewel. The pop rock country track was released in October 2nd 2001 as the first single taken from the singer’s third studio album, “This Way”. It was written by Jewel herself along with Rick Nowels. “Standing Still” speaks about the feeling of lost in love because the way of expressing the love is not reciprocal between her and her significant other. Well, that happens a lot in a relationship. Most of the time, it becomes the source of a conflict for a couple. However, people have their own way; and being in a relationship means we must be able to negotiate every way: to bend. It is not losing ourselves; it is what loving sincerely means. It is the essence of loving someone. It is alright to feel lost and wonder about a lot of things sometimes, since we are human. And it is alright to love someone who cannot love you the same way in return, since we all have different way to express our feeling for someone we love.


"Standing Still" single cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

Who says that loving someone is easy? Let me hit that person with an ashtray. Loving someone is not that easy. Don’t mix it up with falling in love with someone. Sometimes we find it easy to fall in love with someone, but loving them is a different thing; because we define ourselves by the way we love someone. Since love is a verb, it is defined by the way we love. People have their own way to love, and most of the times, it is different for each person. Hence conflicts come when the way is not reciprocal. And that is when we feel lost in love. Sometimes he isn’t there when we need him the most. Sometimes he’s just leaving when he need him to stay. Sometimes he just walk away when we need him to come and embrace us. Sometimes he just got angry when we need him to smile and say that everything is alright. “Cutting through the darkest night are my two headlights. Trying to keep it clear, but I’m losing it here to the twilight. There’s a dead end to my left, there’s a burning bush to my right. You aren’t in sight; you aren’t in sight.”
Who says that loving someone is easy? Let me slap that person with a reality. Loving someone is not that easy. Don’t mix it up with having feeling for someone. Sometimes we find it easy to have feeling for someone, but loving them is a different thing; because we measure our feeling by expressing it for someone we love. Since love is a verb, the feeling is measured by our expression. People have their own way to express feeling, and most of the times, it is different for each person. Hence conflicts come when they way is not reciprocal. And that is when we feel empty and hollow. Sometimes his thoughtless words are breaking our heart. Sometimes his reckless acts are tearing us apart. Sometimes his irrational decision is drowning us in deep sorrow and desperation. “Mother’s on the stoop, boys in souped up coupes on this hot summer night. Between fight and flight is the blind man’s sight and a choice that’s right. I roll the window down, feel like I’m, I’m gonna drown in this strange town. Feel broken down; I feel broken down.”
When the way we love is not reciprocal, we feel lost and wonder whether that person wants us like we want them. “Do you want me like I want you?” When the way we express our feeling is not reciprocal, we feel empty and hollow and wonder whether that person needs us like we need them. “Do you need me like I need you?” When the way we express the love is not reciprocal, we feel broken down and wonder whether that person loves us like we love them. “Do you love me like I love you?” When we feel that it all is not reciprocal, we feel confused and wonder whether the feeling is just one-sided, whether the love is unrequited, whether we are just standing still while that person is passing us by. “Or am I standing still beneath the darkened sky? Or am I standing still with the scenery flying by? Or am I standing still? Out of the corner of my eye, was that you passing me by?” Shakespeare said that parting is such a sweet sorrow. And we wonder whether we have to prepare for it. “A sweet sorrow is the call tomorrow; a sweet sorrow is the call tomorrow.”


"This Way" album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

When we feel lost, confused, empty and hollow, and broken down because of love, it is natural that we wonder whether we have to prepare for a goodbye. And parting, just like what Shakespeare said, is such a sweet sorrow. No one can actually prepare for a sorrow no matter how sweet it is. What an irony. And for me personally, there is no goodbye that is not painful. Is goodbye really needed anyway? It is just in the different way of expressing love hence we feel like it is not reciprocal. And at some point, when we love someone, we bend. And there is one saying that I found in Instagram, which I do agree with it: Loving someone who cannot love you the same way in return is not weakness. It is one of the most courageous things you’ll ever do. You are putting your armour at their feet and you are saying, “I will not fight you in this. I have loved you and that means I have already won.” We may stand still, but we’re not losing. Bending doesn’t mean that we lose ourselves. It just means that we love sincerely. And we’re definitely not the one who’s losing here.

A sweet sorrow is the call tomorrow; a sweet sorrow is the call tomorrow. Do you love me like I love you? Or am I standing still beneath the darkened sky? Or am I standing still with the scenery flying by? Or am I standing still? Out of the corner of my eye, was that you passing me by?” –Jewel, Standing Still




Cutting through the darkest night are my two headlights
Trying to keep it clear, but I’m losing it here to the twilight
There’s a dead end to my left, there’s a burning bush to my right
You aren’t in sight; you aren’t in sight

Do you want me like I want you?
Or am I standing still beneath the darkened sky?
Or am I standing still with the scenery flying by?
Or am I standing still? Out of the corner of my eye, was that you passing my by?

Mother’s on the stoop, boys in souped up coupes on this hot summer night
Between fight and flight is the blind man’s sight and a choice that’s right
I roll the window down, feel like I’m, I’m gonna drown in this strange town
Feel broken down; I feel broken down

Do you need me like I need you?
Or am I standing still beneath the darkened sky?
Or am I standing still with the scenery flying by?
Or am I standing still? Out of the corner of my eye, was that you passing my by?

A sweet sorrow is the call tomorrow; a sweet sorrow is the call tomorrow

Do you love me like I love you?
Or am I standing still beneath the darkened sky?
Or am I standing still with the scenery flying by?
Or am I standing still? Out of the corner of my eye, was that you passing me by?

Are you passing me by? Passing me by
Do you want me? Passing me by
Do you need me like I need you too? And do you want me like I want you?
Passing me by; are you passing me by? Or am I standing still?

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