Drizzle

Saturday, February 04, 2017



What makes love so hard at times? What makes love so difficult sometimes? Is it really the love that is hard at times? Is it really the love that is difficult sometimes? Is it the love or is it the human? I personally think that love is actually neither hard nor difficult. Love is easy and simple. We love, and then we love; that’s it. It is the human that makes it hard and difficult at some point in their life. It is not the love that is hard; it is the relationship instead. It is not the love that is difficult; it is the relationship instead. Love is just there. Relationship, well, relationship is complicated. At some point I believe that love itself is not enough to keep a relationship going strong for so long. I do believe that at some point, as two people are being together for some times, they would find other things than just love that could keep their relationship going strong for a long time. And in this life, no relationship comes easy. It comes with a price to pay; every worthy thing comes with it. When the road is windy and the storm is hard, then it is worth the fight.

Beautiful times when you were in my arms, every of your breath was mine. Sun was shining from our faces, as if blocking the black gloomy clouds to come. Storm was coming in a sudden, tearing up the peacefulness. Everything was vanished, and then drizzles; the sky was crying.” –KLa Project, Drizzle (Gerimis)

This time I would like to talk about fight for the relationship, in a frame of a song titled “Drizzle (Gerimis)”, performed by Indonesian legendary band, Kla Project. It was released in 1996 as a part of the band’s sixth studio album, “KLakustik”. This album was recorded live from the band’s grand concert in Gedung Kesenian Jakarta in March 11th 1996. The pop folk track was written by the band’s front-man, Katon Bagaskara. It speaks about how a couple should have been fighting for their relationship instead of giving up because of some conflicts they have.


"KLakustik" album cover | source: id.wikipedia.org

A relationship always begins beautifully. It washes away the pain of the past. It flutters our heart with excitement. It gives butterflies inside our stomach. It burns passionately. A relationship always begins with such a young love. “Rainy season was coming without a message, bringing old memories that had long gone. Beautiful times when you were in my arms, every of your breath was mine. Sun was shining from our faces, as if blocking the black gloomy clouds to come.” In the first place, love is always coming like a sun shines upon our face. It gives feeling in the relationship as if there won’t be any gloomy sky upon our head. In the beginning, love is always coming like a fire burning inside our heart. It gives feeling in the relationship as if there won’t be any hard storm that would blow it away. Love is always coming as a heartwarming feeling; filling the relationship with excitement and longing. Love is always coming as a passionate feeling; filling the relationship with thrill and joy. It always begins like that; all beautiful things and feelings in the world.
Some of relationships can be really solid and healthy, and that’s the kind of what we hoped for. However, that’s not always what we get. When two people are being together, as they are getting to know each other, they discover some differences that may spark conflicts between them. Since there are no two same exact people in this world, there must be differences. And at times, those differences bring conflict. Somewhere along the way, a relationship will be tested with conflicts. “Storm was coming in a sudden, tearing up the peacefulness. Everything was vanished, and then drizzles; the sky was crying.” Some conflicts may be able to be endured. Some conflicts may be able to be solved easily. However, there are also some conflicts that may break the relationship apart. There are some conflicts that may hard to be endured. There are some conflicts that may difficult to be solved. Some relationships may be able to sustain, while some others may be broken. However, conflict enhances intimacy; if and only if we communicate it well.
Conflict enhances intimacy, if and only if we communicate those things that cause the conflict well. Once we get through those conflict with discussion and negotiation, then it will strengthen the relationship. However, that cannot be done with anger and emotions. It must be done with a cold head and warm heart. “Love, if only you understood, we should be able to get through this all, and not surrender for being separated.” It doesn’t mean that it’s not special and extraordinary, just to have a relationship that is fragile. And it is somehow meaningful in that fragility. Indeed, it’s a never ending learning process. And this process will mean nothing if we just give up on it instead of keeps trying. Life, indeed, is a process of trials and errors; until we success. “Love, if only you were realizing, all is just a test for our love, and not a reason for being separated.” Having conflict in a relationship can be exhausting, but that is process. Through all of this process, we define who we are and become mature as we humbly analyze the problems.


"Drizzle (Gerimis)" live performance in KLakustik concert | source: Youtube

Making decision to separate because of some conflicts without trying to solve and discuss it first is a form of surrender. And there is no surrender if it comes to something that is really mean so much and worth for us. Hence if we choose to surrender in the end, then probably it doesn’t mean that much and it isn’t that worthy for us. However, if the relationship is really worthy, then surrender is not an option; not until we go through some discussion and negotiation first. And by what I mean with discussion and negotiation, it is two-way instead of just one-way. We need to listen to our significant other. And our significant other needs to listen to us too. A relationship isn’t all about just the man’s issues or the woman’s issues; it is about the man and the woman’s issues. The man needs to understand the woman’s issues, as well as the woman needs to understand the man’s issues. A relationship isn’t about “my issues” or “your issues”; it is about “our issues” instead. Open your heart and mind for discussion and negotiation. Remember that we are lovers; that we love each other. Remember why we were together in the first place. That is the essence of a relationship.

Love, if only you understood, we should be able to get through this all. Love, if only you were realizing, all is just a test for our love, and not a reason for being separated.” –KLa Project, Drizzle (Gerimis)



Musim penghujan hadir tanpa pesan, bawa kenangan lama t’lah menghilang
(Rainy season was coming without a message, bringing old memories that had long gone)
Saat yang indah dikau di pelukan, setiap nafasmu adalah milikku
(Beautiful times when you were in my arms, every of your breath was mine)
Surya terpancar dari wajah kita, bagai menghalau mendung hitam tiba
(Sun was shining from our faces, as if blocking the black gloomy clouds to come)
Sekejap badai datang, mengoyak kedamaian, segala musnah, lalu gerimis, langit pun menangis
(Storm was coming in a sudden, tearing up the peacefulness, everything was vanished, and then drizzles, the sky was crying)

Kekasih, andai saja kau mengerti, harusnya kita mampu lewati itu semua
(Love, if only you understood, we should be able to get through this all)
Dan bukan menyerah untuk berpisah
(And not surrender for being separated)

Sekejap badai datang, mengoyak kedamaian, segala musnah, lalu gerimis, langit pun menangis
(Storm was coming in a sudden, tearing up the peacefulness, everything was vanished, and then drizzles, the sky was crying)

Kekasih, andai saja kau mengerti, harusnya kita mampu lewati itu semua
(Love, if only you understood, we should be able to get through this all)
Kekasih, andai saja kau sadari, semua hanya satu ujian ‘tuk cinta kita
(Love, if only you were realizing, all is just a test for our love)
Dan bukan alasan untuk berpisah
(And not a reason for being separated)

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