I Love the Way You Love Me

Thursday, December 08, 2016



Somehow at some point I think that I’m not that good in reviewing love songs. I think my writings are better when I review a sad or a breakup song. That’s just my own personal thought. While in fact, no matter how pleasing to listen sad or breakup songs, I actually love to make a review about love and happy songs. However, I always feel like I can start and end it easily every time I write a review about sad and breakup songs. It feels like the words flow so easily from my brain to my fingers. On the other hand, I always find it hard to start it every time I’m about to write a review of love songs. Just like now. I’ve made eight sentences already but I actually haven’t start anything yet. I want to talk about love. I don’t know; I just feel so in love right now. And I don’t want to let go of this feeling before writing it down. I want to remember this feeling I have now. I want to cherish this moment. I want to celebrate this love.
A poet Daniel Walsh once said, “You are never truly in love with someone until you see their life as it is; the good and the bad. To love the butterfly is to love the caterpillar and the chrysalis all the same.” The funny thing is, some days ago my partner also said similar thing, with different details though, more or less. He said that how come people love butterflies but hate the caterpillars. Somehow that sentence makes me reflect on myself; how do I love all this time? Since for me, love is a verb rather than a noun. It is not about what love is, but how we love, instead. Have we loved our significant other completely? Have we loved our significant other not only for all of their excellences but also all of their deficiencies? Have we loved our significant other for the whole package of them? Have we loved our significant other for who they really are instead of whom we want them to be? Have we loved our significant other for their true self and personality instead of their identity which we demand? Have we loved our significant other for their way of loving us instead of the way that we require from them?

I like the feel of your name on my lips. And I like the sound of your sweet gentle kiss; the way that your fingers run through my hair, and how your scent lingers even when you’re not there.” –John Michael Montgomery, I Love The Way You Love Me

This is an ultimate love song. It is called “I Love The Way You Love Me”, originally a country pop song performed by John Michael Montgomery, an American country music singer. It was released in March 1st 1993 as the second single taken from his debut album, “Life’s a Dance”. The album itsel was released on October 13th 1992. Five years later, the Irish boyband Boyzone covered the song and released it on November 23rd 1998 as the fifth single taken from the group’s third album, “Where We Belong”. Boyzone’s version is a pop ballad track. It was written by Victoria Shaw and Chuck Cannon. This sweet love song has been covered by many singers since then. And yes, now I make a writing about it.


"Life's a Dance" album cover by John Michael Montgomery | source: www.johnmichael.com

When we fall in love with someone, we suppose to fall in love with all of them, with everything about them. We cannot proclaim that we do fall in love with someone when we only see good parts of that person. We cannot declare that we do love someone when we only meet the bright side of that person. I dare to say that when we say we fall in love with someone we barely know, then it is not love; it is just an illusion instead. And perhaps we fall in love with our conception of that person instead of the true self of them. If this is the case, then at some point we will get sick of it when we realize that it is all just a misconception; superficial. However, when we fall for someone’s personality, everything about them becomes beautiful. “I like the feel of your name on my lips. And I like the sound of your sweet gentle kiss; the way that your fingers run through my hair, and how your scent lingers even when you’re not there.” And it is so easy to like so many things about someone when we fall in love with their personality.
“And I like the way your eyes dance when you laugh, and how you enjoy your two-hour bath; and how you’ve convinced me to dance in the rain, with everyone watching like we were insane.” When we love someone’s personality, everything they do is magical. It may take us up or down; it may fix us or break us; it may bring us to heaven or hell, or both of them at the same time. However, we will realize that we fall in love with their personality when we still like them and want to be with them despite all of bad parts and dark side they have; and the fact that we can accept those shortcomings. Moreover, we know we fall in love with their personality when we’ve known that person for years yet still wanting to spend more years ahead with them. Especially, when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we fall into mutually satisfying weirdness. “And I like the sound of old R n’ B, and you roll your eyes when I’m slightly off key. And I like the innocent way that you cry at sappy old movies you’ve seen thousands of times.”
For me personally, I think that we can really say we fall in love with someone when we can accept even their worst behavior, when we can tolerate even their most annoying habit, when we can deal with even their most horrible preference. And I think that we can really tell we are in love with someone when we are able to see that person from other perspective that anybody else could not do. Hence we are able to see the beauty of even their darkest side. “And I could list a million things I love to like about you. But they all come down to one reason; I could never live without you.” For me personally, I think we have the right to say we fall in love with someone when we love them for the whole package; not only the good but also the bad, not only the bright but also the dark. And I think we deserve to say we are in love with someone when we love them completely, with every of their own way they do to love us. “I love the way you love me, strong and wild, slow and easy, heart and soul, so completely. I love the way you love me.”


"I Love The Way You Love Me" single cover by Boyzone | source: en.wikipedia.org

Everything I write above is the essence of loving someone for who they really are. In reality, it is not as that simple as written. It may be easy to write, but of course it is very hard to apply. There are many terms and conditions applied. Unless we have a big heart to give without demanding anything in return, we won’t be able to love completely. Unless we have a wide soul to afford without expecting something particular in exchange, we won’t be able to love for the whole package. And the most significant thing is that: unless we meet someone whose personality is compatible with ours; someone who speaks with the same language, reads the same page, and has the same frequency; someone whose personality equally meets our needs and blends suitably with ours. It is significant since the first two things I’ve mentioned are too utopian. What kind of person has a big heart and wide soul after all? Therefore, the third thing is significant since it is realistic enough. Even with all those compatibilities, two people together still need to do some bending here and there, and have to deal with misconceptions now and then. And time will tell whether it is working or not. However, that is the essence of a relationship.

And I could list a million things I love to like about you. But they all come down to one reason; I could never live without you.” –John Michael Montgomery, I Love The Way You Love Me




I like the feel of your name on my lips, and I like the sound of your sweet gentle kiss
The way that your fingers run through my hair, and how your scent lingers even when you’re not there
And I like the way your eyes dance when you laugh, and how you enjoy your two-hour bath
And how you’ve convinced me to dance in the rain, with everyone watching like we were insane

But I love the way you love me, strong and wild, slow and easy
Heart and soul so completely, I love the way you love me

[John Michael Montgomery version]:
I like to imitate old Jerry Lee, and watch you roll your eyes when I’m slightly off-key
And I like the innocent way that you cry at sappy old movies you’ve seen hundreds of times
[Boyzone version]:
And I like the sound of old R n’ B, and you roll your eyes when I’m slightly off key
And I like the innocent way that you cry from sappy old movies you’ve seen thousands of times

But I love the way you love me, strong and wild, slow and easy
Heart and soul so completely, I love the way you love me

And I could list a million things I love to like about you
But they all come down to one reason, I could never live without you

I love the way you love me, strong and wild, slow and easy
Heart and soul so completely, I love the way you love me

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