Lonely

Sunday, November 27, 2016



Everyone must have been felt lonely. Everyone must have been felt lonely among the crowds. But have you ever felt lonely while your significant other is beside you? Have you ever wondered where does that loneliness come from? Have you ever wondered why do you even feel that way? Have you ever wondered whether it is right or wrong to feel that way? If you ever felt that, well, you’re not alone. At some point, people feel lonely, despite their current relationship status or situation. It is not about whether it is the right feeling or not. It is not about whether something is going wrong in the relationship or not. It is not about whether there is something wrong with yourself or not. It is about being human, and it is a nature of being human to feel lonely sometimes. Everyone has this kind of unexplainable sadness inside them. It is not coming from the outside but it is something we have to deal from the inside. Sometimes we need some time on our own. Everybody needs some time on their own. It doesn’t always mean that we are weird. It doesn’t always mean that we do something wrong. It’s neither the fault of our partner nor something goes wrong with the relationship. It’s about ourselves, which means that we need to spend some time to say hello toward our soul and mind and get to know how it is doing all this time.

Baby I’m sorry, even when I’m with you I’m lonely. I must be lacking when it comes to love. Please forgive this horrible person I am. I’m sorry, this is your and my story. I must not be worthy of this thing called love. Even though I’m by your side, baby I’m so lonely.” –2NE1, Lonely

In a respond to the heartbreaking news spread two days ago, today I would like to write about one of the songs from one of the most influential girl-groups that Kpop industry has ever had: 2NE1. Yup, the sad news was that the group was officially disbanded two days ago. This song is called “Lonely”. It was released on May 11th 2011 as the second single taken from their second Korean self-titled extended play. The EP itself was released on July 28th 2011. “Lonely” is a mid-tempo acoustic ballad track written by Teddy Park. An official music video, directed by Han Sa Min, was released on the same day of the single. So here it is for you; “Lonely”, in order to commemorate the official disbandment of 2NE1. I dedicate this post to say goodbye to this group.


"Lonely" single cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

Loneliness is indeed an easy thing to say but a hard thing to explain. We can easily say that we’re lonely, but most of the times we find it hard to tell why we feel that way. Even among the crowds, sometimes some people find it lonelier than when they’re alone. Lonely is totally different from being alone. Even when we’re with our significant other, there are times when we feel lonely. “Words that I’m saying right now, I don’t know if it will hurt you, it will probably make you hate me forever. You say that I’m not the same as I used to be, that’s not completely untrue. This changed-version of me is a stranger to myself as well.” Even so, most of the time we cannot understand the reason why we feel lonely. It’s a mystery even the most genius person in the world finds it problematic. “You didn’t do anything wrong, I’m the strange one. It seems that I’ve already been preparing since long ago for our breakup. I really wanted to treat you well, out of all the times. But why is it when I’m confronted by love I’m shrinking away and feeling lonely endlessly?”
Loneliness that comes from the inside will change us in some way. For some people who used to be cheerful they would seem quiet in a sudden. For some people who used to be passionate they would seem so cold in a sudden. Sooner or later, our significant other will realize that changing. Because when we become a stranger to ourselves, then it will be even so to our partner. And they will wonder why we change. When we say the truth that we feel lonely, it would hurt our partner’s feeling in some way. But there is no other way than telling the truth. That’s what a healthy relationship takes; to tell the truth no matter how hurtful that will be. Sometimes it’s not our partner who is at fault. Most of the time it is ourselves. Nobody wants to treat their partner badly. However, everyone needs some time to think it for themselves; because not everyone is strong in front of love. “You are so kind, but, that’s the way you are, but, oh I don't know why I am like this. We were so in love, and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself.”
Some people are just weak in front of love. Some people lose their confident when it comes to love. Perhaps, that’s where the loneliness coming from; the fear that they don’t deserve that kind of love, the insecurity that they cannot be and give the best for their partner. They’re being alienated inside their own fears and insecurities. “Baby I’m sorry, even when I’m with you I’m lonely. I must be lacking when it comes to love. Please forgive this horrible person I am. I’m sorry, this is your and my story. I must not be worthy of this thing called love. Even though I’m by your side, baby I’m so lonely.” It doesn’t mean that we don’t love our partner enough. Instead, it’s the sign that we actually love them deeper than we understand. It doesn’t mean that we don’t know how to give love. Instead, it’s the sign that we don’t understand how to receive love. Therefore we feel alienated by our own loneliness. “‘Cause I’m just another girl, this night is lonely, I can’t take it anymore, good bye. ‘Cause I’m just another girl, I’m so lonely, even though I’m by your side right now, baby I’m so lonely.”


"2NE1" mini album cover | source: en.wikipedia.org

When people feel alienated, they tend to choose the easiest way. And the easiest way is running away. However, most of the times, the easiest way is not always the right thing to do. When we feel lonely, we tend to shut ourselves in the darkness and despair. I’ve been there too, believe me, and yes, there is no guarantee that I would not feel that way and do that again sometimes in the future. It’s actually alright to shut ourselves apart from the world and take some distance from our surroundings. However, make sure that you don’t take too long of the time. There are some people out there who really care for us, and one of them is our significant other. Make sure you don’t leave them hanging and wondering what is happening to you. Because it is not impossible for your partner to feel the same when you leave them hanging by your own loneliness. It is highly advised to take some time for your own, but don’t take too long. It is fine to spend some time alone, but don’t take too long. It is alright to be alone for a while, but don’t take too long. For when you think that love is the cause of your loneliness, it is actually the cure instead.

You didn’t do anything wrong, I’m the strange one. It seems that I’ve already been preparing since long ago for our breakup. I really wanted to treat you well, out of all the times. But why is it when I’m confronted by love I’m shrinking away and feeling lonely endlessly? You are so kind, but, that’s the way you are, but, oh I don't know why I am like this. We were so in love, and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself.” –2NE1, Lonely




지금 내가 하는 얘기  아프게 할지 몰라 아마  죽도록 미워하게  꺼야
(Jigeum naega haneun yaegi neol apeuge halji molla ama nal jukdorok miwohage doelkkeoya)
((Words that I’m saying right now, I don’t know if it will hurt you, it will probably make you hate me forever))
내가 예전 같지 않다던   모두 틀린 말은 아니야 나도 변해버린 내가  설기만해
(Naega yejeon gatji anhdadeon ne mal modu teullin mareun aniya nado byeonhaebeorin naega nat seolgimanhae)
((You say that I’m not the same as I used to be, that’s not completely untrue, this changed-version of me is a stranger to myself as well))
너무 착한 넌데  그대로인데 oh, I don’t know, I don’t know, 내가  이러는지
(Neomu chakhan neonde neon geudaeroinde oh, I don’t know I, don’t know, naega wae ireoneunji)
((You are so kind, but, that’s the way you are, but, oh I don’t know, I don't know why I am like this))
그토록 사랑했는데  여기 있는데 oh I don’t know 이제  찾고 싶어
(Geutorok saranghaessneunde neon yeogi issneunde oh, I don’t know, ije nal chatgo sipeo)
((We were so in love, and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself))

Baby I’m sorry, 너와 있어도  lonely 사랑하긴 내가 부족한가 봐이런 못난  용서해
(Baby I’m sorry, neowa isseodo nan lonely saranghagin naega bujoghangabwa ireon motnan nal yongseohae)
((Baby I’m sorry, even when I’m with you I’m lonely, I must be lacking when it comes to love, please forgive this horrible person I am))
I’m sorry, 이게 너와 나의 story 사랑이란 내겐 과분한가   곁에 있어도
(I’m sorry, ige neowa naui story sarangiran naegen gwabunhangabwa ne gyeote isseodo)
((I’m sorry, this is your and my story, I must not be worthy of this thing called love, even though I’m by your side))
Baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
Baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely

네가 잘못한  아냐 내가 이상한 거야 이미 오래 전부터  준비 했나  이별을
(Nega jalmoshange anya naega isanghangeoya imi orae jeonbuteo nan junbi haessnabwa ibyeoreul)
((You didn’t do anything wrong, I’m the strange one, it seems that I’ve already been preparing since long ago for our breakup))
정말 잘해주고 싶었는데 하필 사랑 앞에서는  이렇게 한없이 작아지고 외로운지
(Jeongmal jalhaejugo sipeossneunde hapil sarang apeseoneun wae ireohge haneobsi jagajigo oerounji)
((I really wanted to treat you well, out of all the times, but why is it when I’m confronted by love
I’m shrinking away and feeling lonely endlessly?))
너무 착한 넌데  그대로인데 oh, I don’t know, I don’t know 내가  이러는지
(Neomu chakhan neonde neon geudaeroinde oh, I don’t know I, don’t know, naega wae ireoneunji)
((You are so kind, but, that’s the way you are, but, oh I don’t know, I don't know why I am like this))
그토록 사랑했는데  여기 있는데 oh, I don’t know 이제  찾고 싶어
(Geutorok saranghaessneunde neon yeogi issneunde oh, I don’t know, ije nal chatgo sipeo)
((We were so in love, and you’re here now, but oh, I don’t know, now I want to find myself))

Baby I’m sorry 너와 있어도  lonely 사랑하긴 내가 부족한가 봐이런 못난  용서해
(Baby I’m sorry, neowa isseodo nan lonely saranghagin naega bujoghangabwa ireon motnan nal yongseohae)
((Baby I’m sorry, even when I’m with you I’m lonely, I must be lacking when it comes to love, please forgive this horrible person I am))
I’m sorry 이게 너와 나의 story 사랑이란 내겐 과분한가   곁에 있어도
(I’m sorry, ige neowa naui story sarangiran naegen gwabunhangabwa ne gyeote isseodo)
((I’m sorry, this is your and my story, I must not be worthy of this thing called love, even though I’m by your side))
Baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
Baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely

‘Cause I’m just another girl,  밤이 외로워  더는 견딜  없어 good bye
(‘Cause I’m just another girl, i bami oerowo nan deoneun gyeondil su eobseo good bye)
((‘Cause I’m just another girl, this night is lonely, I can’t take it anymore, good bye))
‘Cause I’m just another girl, 너무나 외로워 지금  곁에 있어도 baby I’m so lonely
(‘Cause I’m just another girl, neomuna oerowo jigeum ne gyeote isseodo baby I’m so lonely)
((‘Cause I’m just another girl, I’m so lonely, even though I’m by your side right now, baby I’m so lonely))
Baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely
Baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely, baby I’m so lonely lonely lonely lonely lonely

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