I'm Not the Only One

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Who says a man can’t have any insecurity? Who says a man can’t be very deeply jealous? Who says a man can’t be devastated by unfaithfulness? If in the last post I talked about melancholic men, well, this is still a part of being melancholic. If in the previous post the man is in a melancholy state because of regrets, guilt, and some lingering feelings toward the past, in this post, it’s because of jealousy, disappointment, anger, and sadness toward unfaithfulness. Here I present today’s song for Male Special Part 2: Ways of Being A Man, titled “I’m Not the Only One” performed by Sam Smith; in which a portrait of a man whose insecurity about love is expressed sincerely. No matter whether we’re a man or a woman, it’s hard to imagine our place is being replaced by someone else. No matter whether we’re a man or a woman, it’s hurt to know that we’re not the only one; that the heart is being divided, that we’re not wholly loved.

For months on end I’ve had my doubts, denying every tear. I wish this would be over now, but I know that I still need you here.” –Sam Smith, I’m Not the Only One

Released on August 31st 2014, “I’m Not the Only One” was served as the fourth single taken from Sam Smith’s debut studio album, “In the Lonely Hour”. The R n’ B pop soul track was written by Smith himself along with James Napier. The song has found chart success in several countries. It has also gained commercial success in Europe, US, Australia and Asia. It gave Smith his third top ten single on the US Billboard Hot 100.
People say that a jealous woman is a disaster, while a jealous man is cute. Well, I say that there’s nothing cute with jealousy, at all! It’s a serious thing, everybody, please never consider jealousy as a cute thing, okay? We’re human and it’s natural to have a feeling, an intuition, when something wrong is going on, particularly if it’s related to our significant other. Somehow, we just know when something is not right. “You and me, we made a vow, for better or for worse. I can’t believe you let me down, but the proof’s in the way it hurts. For months on end I’ve had my doubts, denying every tear. I wish this would be over now, but I know that I still need you here.” And there’s nothing hurt so much more than realizing that our intuition is right after all. People say that the one who loves more is the one who will be hurt deeper. Well, I say that’s correct. When a heart breaks, it doesn’t break even. “You’ve been so unavailable, now sadly I know why. Your heart is unobtainable, even though Lord knows you kept mine.”
I say to never underestimate a jealousy. Why? Jealousy can cause anxiety. And anxiety will kill. It’s killing us, slowly, inside, deeply. And to tell you one thing or two about anxiety, it’s not good for our health. The pain is just unbearable. We’ll be hardly breathe and barely think. “You say I’m crazy, ‘cause you don’t think I know what you’ve done. But when you call me baby, I know I’m not the only one.” So, which one is worse, a white lie or a brutal honesty? No one wants to be lied to, yet is everyone really ready for a casually cruel in the name of being honest? One way or the other way around, unfaithfulness is hurt. No one wants their love to be divided. No one wants to compete with something they know they can’t win over. No one wants to be an option. No one wants to be a second choice. No one wants to be less prioritized. Yet love never cares about what we want. Yet love is indeed irrational. “I have loved you for many years; maybe I am just not enough. You’ve made me realize my deepest fear by lying and tearing us up.”
The official music video for “I’m Not the Only One” was directed by Luke Monaghan. It was released to YouTube on August 1st 2014. The music video features actress Dianna Agron and actor Chris Messina, with the reverse storyline from the song lyrics. In the video, the man is the unfaithful one in the relationship. Well, unfaithfulness hurts in any way. No matter whether we’re a man or a woman, we all want to be loved completely.

You’ve been so unavailable, now sadly I know why. Your heart is unobtainable, even though Lord knows you kept mine.” –Sam Smith, I’m Not the Only One




“You and me, we made a vow, for better or for worse
I can’t believe you let me down, but the proof’s in the way it hurts
For months on end I’ve had my doubts, denying every tear
I wish this would be over now, but I know that I still need you here

You say I’m crazy, ‘cause you don’t think I know what you’ve done
But when you call me baby, I know I’m not the only one

You’ve been so unavailable, now sadly I know why
Your heart is unobtainable, even though Lord knows you kept mine

I have loved you for many years, maybe I am just not enough
You’ve made me realize my deepest fear by lying and tearing us up

I know I’m not the only one, I know I’m not the only one
And I know, and I know, and I know, and I know
And I know, and I know, no, I know I’m not the only one”

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